I am here if you need me and I totally know about being numb. Just take the day one second at a time and you will get through it. You are so strong and try and take care of everyone else. It has been my pleasure getting to know you. Hang in there girlfriend and like I said I am here for you. I don't know what to say to your question because I am still trying to find out now what and this really does suck big time. Maybe we have to go back to the baby steps for awhile again, but just try and take care of you.
Hugs,
Kathy
I am so sorry RS! My sad day is coming up in early Januray. I know it must be very hard so close to Thanksgiving but maybe you can take heart in knowing we who have gone down this road a few yards ahead of you find that it does get a little easier each year that passes. I myself started a ritual on the first anniversay that helps me get through the day. I go to the cemetery at the hour of his death and sit and pray and cry for a while. I feel that it was just the two of us when he died. Although there were other family members in the hospital, it still felt like a very private moment between the two of us. I let him go, no one else mattered. So, I sort of play it out again and somehow it helps. When I get up and leave, it is behind me for another year. If you think a ritual will help you then I am glad I gave you the idea. It was given to me by a grief counselor.
Let us know if we can do anything more to help. Sometimes it just helps to talk to others who get it!
Jane
I am so sorry R.S. I myself stay in prayer the whole day an I sit a talk to Terry an tell her how much I love her. I get little signs here an there to let me knows she understands. I am praying for you . GOD BLESS AN KEEP YOU SAFE JOE
thanks, everyone. I really am okay.... Wednesday was worse for me because it was Veteran's Day and he died on Veteran's Day.
My neighbors invited me over for dinner last night and after we ate, we all shared a toast to Gary. It was nice. Something that I've not mentioned because, quite honestly, I had a very difficult time accepting it, but a month ago I lost my Sadie (my Boxer and best friend). Everyone expected me to totally fall apart, but I just would not allow myself to even think about it. If I did, I just rationalized that she was with her Daddy (Gary) up in heaven and they were having a grand old time. Rocky (our pet raccoon we lost three years ago), Sadie and Gary - together again. I almost feel jealous that I'm not with them.
But life goes on, and I really appreciate you all being here for me. For all the new members, or old members dealing with new loss, it really does get easier with time. Some days are still difficult, but some days are just different.
She was beautiful and I know how much you must miss her, but you know she is in heaven with your husband and now both of them are watching over you and sending you there love. Glad you are okay and that made it through yet another year. When does it get easier?
Hugs,
Kathy
David's little dachshund, Otto, died several months after David left. He was only 6 years old and hadn't been ill. Losing him was like losing part of David again, but it was a comfort to know that they were together again.
I'm not quite at two years yet. I'm not looking forward to the holiday season. That was always a special, fun time for David and me. You asked, "Now what?" God, I wish I knew...
For me, the "now what" has finally turned into my time for the first time in my life. I was a mother at 19, married twice and I worked a full time job for close to 40 years. Now I live alone and my son is married. I had never, ever lived alone until the day after my beloved husband died. Now I relish my freedom, my independence and my solidarity. I did not get a chance to be on my own when I was younger, so this is MY time to do what I want to do with my life - possibilities surround me, but I am not young any more so I am taking it slowly. I just started Tai Chi and love it! I hope you will find this is your time, too.
