Message 2772 of 4458

Sex on the First Date?

I lost my virginity at the age of 17, and I never looked back. Recently, I started dating on-line. More recently, I started dating a very hot guy who called before we even met and drew me in to some very hot phone sex. Then about a week later, we met in person. I debated for a bit about whether to play the coy engenu or just pull down my pants and have fun. I decided to set up my camping tent in the front yard and make a love nest for our first date. He loved it (and so did I).

During dinner (he did not know about the tent yet), he said how frustrating, and perhaps silly, it was to have to go through the adolescent stages of dating as a sexually experienced, divorced man: holding hands, kissing a bit, second base, etc. Then if no chemistry existed, he would have to start that silliness all over again.

I understood his point of view completely (hence the pre-planned love nest). But frnakly, it is a little weird to have sex the first time you meet someone in this wierd world of on-line dating.

I hope that the women who read this know what I am talking about. The silly goddess-whore stuff men can bring to the relationship. Bay boomer men, I am especially interested in your perspective.

P.S. He is still hot, and we are still dating.

Thoughts? Comments?
Levisa's profile
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That's Baby boomer men . . . . not Bay boomer men. I wish they had an edit button on this site.
Levisa's profile

over 2 years ago
Whatever makes you happy, One thing about this group, I don't think we judge each other. What may be perfectly fine for one may not be for someone else. To each his own.
TestofF8th's profile

over 2 years ago
You're lucky.....you're still dating. I'm not going to tell you I haven't done that....but not anymore. Its just to much about sex these days....for me anyway......I want more....but that's just me. Don't get me wrong.....I love sex....but I want more. If you haven't read the book "The Kosher Sutra" by Shmuley Boteach...you really should....in fact every man and woman should if they are really interested in "sex".

I just have to have more than "sex".....
annieoak's profile

over 2 years ago
Back in the day, I had sex only once on a first date. It didn't last long, the relationship not the date, but was hot and furious while it lasted. At this stage of life in particular, one should feel free to do whatever you feel is right, always trying to keep from hurting anyone of course. I've found being an empty nester extremely liberating, worrying less and less about what other people think as each day passes. Life is good.

over 2 years ago
Not saying I have never done it, back in the day! Then you only had to protect yourself against unwanted pregnancies. Today is a much different story with all the diseases and nut-cases around. I also have a much higher regard for myself then I did back then. To each his own, but for me, I want to take the time to know who I am dating and make a wise decision on how far I want it to go.
Leprikin's profile

over 2 years ago
Good Morning Leprikin.

over 2 years ago
So he is hot, the sex is hot, but what is the relationship based on? Hot stuff? Funny, all I can think about is Donna Summers singing "Hot Stuff". lol Enjoy it and have fun.
gingersnap723's profile

over 2 years ago
Enjoy what you want to do as long as noone gets hurt it is fine. You are an adult and so is he.
Who knows it could lead to more? If that is what you want.
poolgrandma's profile

over 2 years ago
I'd rather that we focus on the question in general and not on the choice I made. I am fine with my choice.

In other words, do we still have to deal with the Madonna-whore dichotomy at this advanced stage of our sexualiy? I said goddess-whore in my original post, but that was not quite right.

So men, I am really asking for your perspectives.
Levisa's profile

over 2 years ago
Levisa, I don't think the men here in this group are typical of the general single male population at large. The guys here are more introspective, honest and mature (as in wise, not age lol) than you will find in the general population.
MartiInMexico's profile

over 2 years ago
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