I completely understand where you're coming from! I'm to the point now that i dont even try to talk to a man because i know where it's going to lead. Maybe I'm wrong for feeling that way.. All i do know is I've been single for over a year and I havnt met anyone in a very long time that is worth the time and effort to start a relationship with
"Why can't you be a decent woman with morals and values and still not be alone?
I sincerely agree that a woman and even a man too, should be able to maintain respectable standards of decency without feeling that your values might narrow the chances of finding a mate who will respect those principles. However... We still have not hit the bottome of of the smut barrel. There are still some of us men left who value the idea of getting to know you first as we build a meaningful friendship, before the romance begins. However... Our world in general, is no longer geared towards that mindset. And if you dont believe me, just go back over to that TV or computer and look closer. Everything, music, movies, books, websites are all about sex and sex appeal and even porn if they can subtly slip some in there. And men are just products of their environment, conditioned to percieve women as sex objects first. People second. Its not an excuse and Im not justifying it. Just saying.
I haven't posted in a long time but I agree with all of you. It amazing me how some men even try to be clever and creative, pretending to want a relationship when all they want is a "one night stand". However, I don't like to generalize and lump all men together. I, too, have run into my fair share of bed hoppers..some, even the men in their 50s, who act like pigs when it comes to sex.
However, I still like a guy who wants to spend time with his lady, enjoying outdoor activities of our choosing and allow intimacy to happen when it happen-in other words: "enjoy the journey to the destination instead of going directly to the destination".
I know that there are men like that: an honest, loving, drug/drama/disease/smoke-free, kind man, who is drama-free, not dating many other ladies, which in my opinion, is drama waiting to happen.
I like a guy who wants to know his lady, and she him, spend time together, becomes best friends because I believe that best friends make the best lovers!
I like a man who'll accept his large lovely lady no matter her shape and realize that ALL BBWs aren't going to be curvy, have an hour glass figures, etc just like all men aren't going to be the "perfectly designed and endowed man". Some of us have bellies, small breasts etc just like he's physically who he is.
But we're ALL beautiful, need love and acceptance no matter our size and shape.
When we as larger ladies have to "pick our bodies apart" for acceptance, to me it's no better than a man who dislikes ladies of size. Can we all just accept each other no matter how the Creator has chosen to design us and focus on the beauty within?
