If you were not seeing each other during that time, I'd let it go
and say nothing. But it sounds like you too got back together
around the same time he was seen with someone else. So, I
(meaning myself) would ask him about it. If he denies it and you
trust the friend who told you, then you've pretty much caught him
in a round about way, and on top of that he would have just lied to you.
Me, myself, would kick his butt to the curb under those circumstances
But only you can make a decision. I can tell you what "I'D"do as I just
have, but I can't speak for you or tell you what to do. I can however ask
you to think about making yourself happy. If he is steppin' out on you,that
is not a happy situation. You have got to look out for #1 first. That is you.
I wish you so much luck and don't let this guy or any for that matter walk
all over you.
Sassy...I am curious what your take is on this....how do you perceive the situation and what are you planning to do?
My initial take is that we were off, so to speak, during the four days and it could be ok. The problem is your mind begins to wander....he says he never cheated while in a relationship (he's my same age, divorced..I'mcoming off of a 35 yr marriage that ened in me being a widow) so was it a cheating thing??? How fast did it take him to be with someone else? I totally trust the friend who innocently told me. If you are with someone that fast, How???, we were texting the whole time to fix the miscommuniction.
I told him last nite that a friend told me at a parth she had seen him...he said " I will not confirm or deny"
So is this enough to kick him to the curb??? I feel kind of stupid. I spent that Saturday night home watching the ball game and other acquaintances probably also so the PDA and after seeing me with him last nite probably think I'm pretty stupid...
He said, "who was I worried about, who am I with, etc."....
I'm just feeling like maybe I was disrespected...although I don't want to over react or read something that is not there...
Get rid of the guy. Grieving is not in his vocabulary.
Kick him to the curb sweetie. Him not confirming
or denying told you right there he was guilty. He
did and he is disrespecting you. If he can't have
a conversation and be straight forward, kick it
girl kick and kick it good! You deserve better than
that.
I think the best advice to take is your own. Before you make any rash decisions, think about what you want and how you feel about you and him and what happened. Then think about what will make you happy. I take it that during the months you two were together you discussed being monagamous? it was agreed? And the time you were apart, it was a true break in the relationship? Once you figure out how you feel about what happened, talk with him about it. Then make the decision that works best for you. That leaves you happy and feeling good about yourself and don't worry what anyone else thinks about it!
Thank you to all...Yes we discussed being exclusive, the break came because I facebooked him, which he said he signed up for and invited me to be friends, so I searched for him and he did not come up on facebook but a criminal record did...I read the record, decided it wasn't that bad, but mentioned to hime that he may not want to be on facebook since this came up...he accused me of "looking" him up....I explained that I wasn't looking him up, just trying to friend him as he offered verballly and it came up....so he was mad for four days...not me...while i texted and told him I was merely mentioning the item.....
I know, gut says there is a problem...
Oh, boy, I think after what you've just said that there are bigger issues here. NEXT!
I know....wasted five months....thanks SF
It's never a waste if you had fun along the way, Sassy. One more learning experience.
