Was it something I said? ;0)
Maybe it was something I meant to say (lol)!?
I might have said something sarcastic -- ha ha ha ha
I see what you mean, Yankee, sometimes it's just hard to express exactly what we're saying when we type.....
posted by OldMike
about 1 month ago
An incredible amount of communication takes place in the tone of voice, body language (particularly facial expression), and the context of what is said. This is a great topic and reminds me of one of my pet peeves. One thing that I never could stand is when someone chooses to be insulted. You know, you kid each other all the time, you have friendly banter back and forth, then this exact same behavior is suddenly taken as an insult not because they were truly insulted but because they are angry for another (an often stupid and indefensible) reason and they pick this to get angry over.
Boy, do I know what you mean. I eat lunch with a couple of guys quite often - as guys will do, we dish it out a lot -- tease each other as only guys can do! All of a sudden last week I sit down with these guys and find out that one of them was insulted by something I had said a few days earlier and he was ready to fight (almost ready to punch me, but we're all adults and that didn't happen) - I apologized for whatever it was I did and finally smoothed things over. Seems he can dish it out but can't take it and then when he gets all upset about something he let my comment (I'm still not sure what I said!) become the issue -- just like you said, MQM - he picked something I said as the thing to act angry about, but it was probably something else.
posted by OldMike
about 1 month ago
I agree....messages online can be interpreted the wrong way.....but also some choose to see the worst. We lost some members in this group that way.
Anybody see AuroraAustralis?
Not to beat this to death Mike, but I'm huge fan of John Wayne and saw McClintock about a month ago. In one scene he did a great job of describing this practice. In the movie Maureen O'Hara is ticked at him but won't tell him why but chooses to get angry at him whenever he feels like. I gotta watch that again and get the quote.
Make that ...whenever she feels like (weak left ring finger didn't hit the "s" hard enough)
Never did like John Wayne. From little on, I remember TV/movies and having a negative reaction to him. It stuck with me all these years. Can't even bear to hear his voice, and to get it off the TV if it appears.
posted by Lily60
about 1 month ago
I know what you mean, Lily - there were actors that I didn't like growing up also (Liberace was one even before I knew what "gay " meant! LOL)- although I did like John Wayne. But we have to remember ours isnt the only way of thinking and respect others opinions even if we disagree...I am guilty of not doing this sometimes also. I also try to give people a hard time, and it backfires. I apologize to anyone whom I might have made feel bad.
Oh, it's real clear to me that my opinions don't run with the 'norm' here (for the most part), so I try to participate in the lighter fare. ; ) At our age, ppl pretty much know what and why they believe as they do. So I spend my energy where it does the most good. I learned these lessons from dealing with my brother (I do think Mom dropped him on his head). But he left WI for Newt County in GA, rides around listening to Rush, and thinks FOX is a news station. Since his heart attack, and my stress test, LOL ...I won't debate him anymore...I just tell him he 'can' be right. hee hee
posted by Lily60
about 1 month ago
Smart lady! My opinions don't come off well all the time either - it's just part of being hoomin.
