And that's not him in the picture. That's my friend George. Another post. ok? Another story.....We just buried him :(((((
I pray you will seek counseling and help for him...maybe through the VA. In addition, you need some counseling for yourself and time away from him so you can just be yourself. You're right...your life is precious.
What sadness you are experiencing. I wish you peace and happiness.
Condolences on the loss of your friend George, and how draining it can be to be a caregiver. There are some groups here at Eons, and elsewhere on the Internet, where you can interact with other caregivers and offer and receive support. It is very important to make sure you MAKE time in your life for your own needs ... and make things comfortable at home for yourself as well as for him. I agree that seeking counseling is an excellent suggestion, MellowBlue.
I agree with that above as well and thankfully, as mentioned, there are groups here that might be able to help you, help you cope, as well as here where you can feel free to vent, ask for suggestions, commisserate with some of us who have been through similar circumstances, whatever. Just remember to take care of yourself and do it NOW. Do something that makes you happy, go out with a friend, volunteer, whatever it takes. I, too, hope you can find some peace and happiness in your life. You deserve it.
posted by TJinPA
about 1 month ago
Quite a few of my college classmates and former co-workers married Vietnam vets; I heard a lot of horror stories--Physical, emotional and verbal abuse. Some of the couples are still married, some were long ago divorced. I am also sorry that George is passed on-I hope you feel a little better as time goes by. I agree that you need the counseling help-if you have not done so already. Now, we have this younger generation of men AND women coming home from Iraq and Afghanistan--so-another long period of painful torment for the veterans and their families.
Went to hold my grandbabies today and ate cupcakes with them! What a mess! LOL
My son wouldn't even bring the girls down to the house and expose his little girls to him. I can't say that I blame him. Now they can all visit after church, etc.! How wonderful that will be!
Well I'm off to George's memorial.
Thank you for all your kind thoughts and prayers. I will keep u all in my prayers too
peace
SL
I hope you go to couseling before you make a decision not necessarily to change your mind bt to give you strength t be happy. You stayed with him this long, maybe becaue f you chidren but you do need to see your own worth. It is difficult living alone but you can be with someone arried even and sill be alone. Goo luck..and God Bless...be way I am pro- marriage but abuse is not a marriage it is a co-dependancy relationship, not healthy.
You have a lot of anger and pain. I surely wish you well. It is a hard and emotionally difficult process.
Best wishes, what your going through isn't easy...hope you can find of answers.
