Getting through Grief
Hello to all my fellow group members....my wonderful friends here. I have been away a few days with the good old flu bug that everyone seems to be getting, but I am doing better and pray that all of you are well. Just because I have not been here posting ....KNOW that all of you remain in my thoughts and prayers daily. As I came back today to read in the group I met Joanne our newest member and read of others who had posted and things they are experiencing...a welcome back to CC my friend as well. In reading I had some thoughts that I would like to share about this "getting thorough grief" because we do get "THROUGH" it...it takes "time" but there is a time of it ending...like walking through a woods...we walk into the forrest but there comes a time when we walk out the other side.
There is no skirting around the suffering of grief. If we are to incorporate this event into our lives, we must walk through the center of our suffering, with our eyes open. Easy....NO. Comfortable....NO Pain free.....NO. But necessary.
We may be tempted to do otherwise ...to save ourselves from this pain. It doesn't work. What we try to avoid will stay, demanding its due, the pain compounding like unpaid interest as we add to the burden of loss the burden of trying to hold the pain at bay. No one wants or enjoys pain....this is only natural.
To be sure we can take "breathers" as we're able ....and we need to, to keep our emotional health intact. It is a fine balancing act...when to seek diversion and when to let the full measure of loss declare itself.
We find this out by trial and error. When the pressure begins to build...a sense of being pushed by an unspoken agenda...it's time to releae that pressure by being present to our sadness. We don't have to do it alone. Sometimes a friend can listen, without trying to gloss over our grief or burden us with well-meaning advice. A grief group is especially helpful.....a group like this one....people who understand that we need to talk about it....again and again and again.
Be present to your grief; it is your only way to getting through it and a new life.
I love you all and am here for you in anyway I can be. I will listen...I do understand. There is no glossing over the pain and hurt that you feel....it is real...and no well meaning words or expressions can change that.
Hugs of friendship to all of you,
Jarcy
There is no skirting around the suffering of grief. If we are to incorporate this event into our lives, we must walk through the center of our suffering, with our eyes open. Easy....NO. Comfortable....NO Pain free.....NO. But necessary.
We may be tempted to do otherwise ...to save ourselves from this pain. It doesn't work. What we try to avoid will stay, demanding its due, the pain compounding like unpaid interest as we add to the burden of loss the burden of trying to hold the pain at bay. No one wants or enjoys pain....this is only natural.
To be sure we can take "breathers" as we're able ....and we need to, to keep our emotional health intact. It is a fine balancing act...when to seek diversion and when to let the full measure of loss declare itself.
We find this out by trial and error. When the pressure begins to build...a sense of being pushed by an unspoken agenda...it's time to releae that pressure by being present to our sadness. We don't have to do it alone. Sometimes a friend can listen, without trying to gloss over our grief or burden us with well-meaning advice. A grief group is especially helpful.....a group like this one....people who understand that we need to talk about it....again and again and again.
Be present to your grief; it is your only way to getting through it and a new life.
I love you all and am here for you in anyway I can be. I will listen...I do understand. There is no glossing over the pain and hurt that you feel....it is real...and no well meaning words or expressions can change that.
Hugs of friendship to all of you,
Jarcy
