Totally Correct. I have held on to a lot of resentment and have forgiven all who have hurt me in the past and a weight has lifted from me. There is indeed a lightness in my life. Resentment is indeed a heavy load to carry. Give it up. It works. I have a smile today ( :> ).
Sure this is correct. When I think about 4 or 5 incidents of my past, I know there is so much resentment there that I could just die.I know that I have become very overhelmed by all the resentment that I feel. The overall effects certain acts had on my life have been immeasurable--the people and their actions cost me so much.. NOw, I am very protective of myself and I just cant trust most people.
Once I vent the anger I'm usually ok. Like venting in the resentment post the other day allowed me to let go of alot of the resentment over a situation I really can't do anything about. But now it feels lighter to carry.
I held on to a grudge against a former friend of my late husband's and mine. He caused us many problems and totally betrayed us. Then, one day I realized that he most likely was not thinking of me at all, and that I was only hurting myself. A lightbulb went on, and I just let it all go. I never was someone who routinely held grudges, but one is all it takes to make you feel awful and to sap your energy.
I trust people until they give me reason not to trust. I just can't approach a new person in my life with suspicion. Mostly, I've been rewarded and overwhelmed with the flood of positive people.
"Never hold a grudge, because while you do, the other guy is out dancing." -- Buddy Hackett
One of my daughters has that taped to her computer monitor.
there is no point holding a grudge but I don't forget. I use the betrayal or problems as lessons to learn from. I stay in tune with how I felt and what red flags I missed so I don't miss anymore
resentment can kill you--never underestimate the power of negative energy--OR the opposite, either--we always have the choice in how we view it, so if that is the case, the quicker we release the resentment, the quicker we heal fully.
I can let it go I just wish I could help others do the same!
I like the answer Rainbow56 gave. I really do NOT hold grudges ,but I am not going to forget. I chalk up the pain as part of my life path and lessons learned.
