Message 1175 of 3859

Charity Begins ...... Where?

I read a blog account of a person meeting and talking in the drizzling rain with a homeless woman. The writer talked about how she stifled an impulse to invite the homeless woman to sleep on the couch in her home.

It got me thinking about charity. Just how much responsibility do we have, individually, for the well being of others?

Should she have extended that invitation to the homeless woman? For one rainy night? And the next rainy night? For forever?

And then what .... put her out to forage as usual in the dumpsters and trash cans for food before returning to the couch to sleep? Or should she feed this woman, also?

Angels in disguise, we are warned. We never know, we are told. Should we offer charity because it might be an angel or really nice person under all that filth and 14 layers of clothes? Or because simply, it is the right thing to do? Or do nothing?

In another group, someone posted asking for help with a charity that helps the truly destitute in India. And most responses said, 'Yeah, that is fine, but how about starting and doing all these good works here in the USA."

Should all our charitable activities take place only in our own neighborhoods and towns, and cities?

Just where .... and how far ..... should charity begin and go?
MartiInMexico's profile
To me, Marti, I think the most interesting question is "Just how much responsibility do we have, individually, for the well being of others?"

And then, there is the question "Just how much responsibility do we have, collectively, for the well being of others?"

I'll try to put my vague thoughts on this into words this weekend.
searching1's profile

over 2 years ago
I think it's up to each individual to decide what one is willing to do, and for whom. Collectively, we could change the world if we were motivated to do so. Like the responses to the post you mentioned, the typical response is "what's in it for me (my country, my town, my neighborhood, my family, me)?" so that's where the "charity begins at home" comes from. However, walking the walk is different from talking the talk :)
BarbInBend's profile

over 2 years ago
Let me ask you this: why do you think the blogger did not offer the streetlady her sofa to sleep on? Should she have?
MartiInMexico's profile

over 2 years ago
It's not for me to say what someone else should do or not do. I have refused an acquaintance who lost her home to foreclosure and wanted to come and camp on my couch for a week "or so" with her pets, because of my own feelings about what kind of person she was. I say was, because her attitudes have changed with the experience, and she has become less self-centered, less blaming, and more willing to take responsibility for herself. I do keep in touch with her via email and offer encouragement and sometimes more specific solutions to some of her problems, but I don't feel obliged to let her live here.
BarbInBend's profile

over 2 years ago
Nobody is obligated to anyone else…Mom’s philosophy was simple…When a beggar, (we didn’t call them that) appeared on our door step, he got the full dinner, on the front porch…

However, things way go back to that in the future if circumstances keep going the way they are, economic wise…or every town closes it food kitchens. Unemployment over 10% is not good.
denjolly's profile

over 2 years ago
Charity begins at home. I believe in taking care of my friends and my family and then spreading out to the larger community. I have opened my home to friends and co-workers and to the friends of my children and would probably do it again. I have been taken advantage of in the past and may be again in the future but I have also reaped huge rewards and life-long friendships at the same time.

I'm sometimes torn over whether we should concentrate our efforts here in the States before going outside our borders to help others but I'm always struck by how much more severe the need seems to be in other places.
merlinsflame's profile

over 2 years ago

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