you are so right, frankie! keeping that (right) attitude is the way to go.....although some of us may stumble on that path a bit.... you just get up, dust off and start again...
Auntie Mame said: "Life is a banquet, and most poor suckers are starving to death!"
I've paraphrased that for me: "Life is a banquet, set your table!" That's MY motto. Life is wonderous, funny, messy, full of joy, sometimes angst, new adventures, new friends yet to meet..............Be ready for it. Every day is an adventure of sorts. Take a deep breath, forget about forgiving and just move on. If you don't like where you are in life, change it! Only you are standing in your way.
great advice from everyone, but I also have to add that grieving/depression are so subjective and it is a different pace for each of us. I do think we have to honor that part of ourselves as well as putting one foot in front of the other. I know we all have those days when it is really tough to get motivated to even do that. Especially if we are alone and have lost our 'support system'. Creating a new life (I've heard it called 'navigating a new normal') takes time and the timeline is different for each of us.
Reaching out to others is a great first step, and if that doesn't come naturally (it does not for me) be proud of yourself for taking that leap of faith.
There is nothing wrong in asking for help and direction. Sometimes grief or anothe situation is so overwhelming breathing is a challenge. If others have been there and moved through it, they have strength and information to share. It's important to know that the way you're feeling now will not necessarily be the case even a month from now!
This sound corny, and its an old cliché, but you are the one responsible for your own happiness. There is no magic in finding another person, and thinking that is THE path to happiness can be a huge mistake. There's lots of turkeys out there for one thing. Over time, I hope you'll learn to appreciate the advantages you have in your life as much as I have learned to appreciate them in my own. Just expand your circle of friends and don't get so hung up on finding someone. Being single is not like having the plague.
It helps to hang with friends with a positive outlook.
Frankie you're absolutely right. I'm a firm believer that like attracts like. In that sense I've noticed that I have more postive minded people in my life. That includes alot of the folks I've met from this group.
You give up trying to find a soulmate, focus on your self-expressive hobbies such as dancing and art, and such acceptive groups as Mensa and the Poetry Caravan...garnering warm friends in the process.
Jay
Many have given you what I consider to be good advice. Pick what "fits" and try it. I'm going to go one step beyond what Frankie, Blaz and SAS said and tell you to avoid negative people like the plague. They can only bring you down. Surround yourself with positive people and realize so much of life is a CHOICE. Make a good one. Best of luck in it and I hope you stick around and let us know how it works out for you.
