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I was married to one for over 33 years....you can never have to much storage.....and you can't throw it out.....they go nuts!!!

My ex would go to the dump with a load and bring back another load of stuff that he found. When I sold our old house, I had to hire people to help clean out the crawl space under the house and the attic.
I have since been in a relationship with a man who had more clothes then anyone I know. He had 60 suits all in cleaners bags and on and on. He would go to the thrift store and buy stuff he didn't need.
I had coffee the other day with another man who is the same way.
Books are the only thing that I have lots of. I have made 2 runs to Good Will this week with clothes that I don't wear or things that I haven't used.
It is certainly a red flag for me.

I would never give in to it. I would move.

I have lots of books----but now what I do If I buy one book i give away one book!

Yep the guy in the basement took me 3 years to clear out my home of "stuff" junk... just stuff... he even save the tab from the beer cans...

I had books which I did give to the junk men, I tried to give to nursing homes, schools, libraries and no one wanted them. (Sad ha).

Clothes went to the homeless.

Too much stuff causes stress per the professional...

I have a dear friend who I have known for over 40 years who is a hoarder. Her house is filled to capacity with minutia - mostly papers ie: receipts that should have been thrown away years ago, old greeting cards, magazines, newspapers you name it. Everything is neatly organized in piles on tables. Her dining room and kitchen tables are not used for eating because of all the papers. Everytime she talks to me she says "Oh, I have so much to do, I just have to get rid of this stuff so I can sell my house". She has been saying this very sentence for the last 20 years. But, then about a month ago she called me up and said she wanted to get serious about getting rid of stuff and asked if I would help her. She sounded desperate to set up a day and time with me and wanted me to come a.s.a.p. This Saturday at 9:00 a.m. is when I was to go over there. But, guess what? She called me two days ago to cancel. She said this was the type of thing only she could do because she knew what all these papers etc. were about and I didn't. She also made the excuse that if I came on Saturday where would we have lunch - if we would go out for lunch that would take up too much time yada, yada, yada. So the whole thing was cancelled but, she wants to set up another definite day and time for me to come in a couple of weeks. At that point I told her I was busy and wouldn't be able to help her until after the holidays. She then sounded disappointed and said "you mean I have to wait 'til January"? To me she is just playing a game that I have no intention of getting caught up in. Hoarders are terrified of letting go of anything they have accumulated. I could never be in a relationship with one - it would drive me nuts.

I went out with a man once (key word there) who was a hoarder. Or maybe just lazy, who knows? :) He came to pick me up and when he opened the door to his car for me, there was barely enough room for a person to sit with all the crap that was piled up on the seat, the floor, the backseat - filled to capacity! I took one look and said "let's take my car." Forget it - I don't have time for it. I grew up with a mother who was a stickler about neatness and cleanliness, and I apparently inherited the trait. I can put up with clutter for a short period of time, then it's got to go. I could never put up with another person's clutter. The couple of times my oldest daughter came to stay with me I about went crazy seeing her piles of CRAP everywhere.

I'm pretty much a minimalist - no extra junk sitting around. Only time i have lots of extra stuff is Christmas (i love to decorate for it). My kids will be ok with me (when i croak) until they hit my craft/sewing room.....then they won't be too happy.....grin.....but I won't be around to have to listen to it....LOL

I went out with a guy his mom & dad hoarders and I would go to his house there was no place to sit they would ask me to eat with them and look at the kitchen there was no way I could eat there. All I could think was they has to be bugs in that kitchen walking all over the food.

Why would I want to sign up for that???? It's kind of a HUGE clue that something just "AINT RIGHT".