I know what you mean about feeling "wiped out." Sometimes I get on emotional overload and don't even know it until I 'collapse.' I think that we absorb more feelings/emotions that we're aware of; and when there's a string of painful feelings it seems to gang up on us. Sleep is good!
Wakes and funerals tend to be unhappy depressing occasions. All of us in this group have experienced either one or both of these occasions in the recent past. Those days probably were the most stressful and emotionally painful days we ever experienced. With the passage of time we consciously and unconsciously attempt to suppress these memories and push them to the back of our minds. Unfortunately, however, they are retained as memories and can always be brought forth. I believe when this occurs we use whatever defense mechanisms we have. In my case and perhaps yours, sleep shuts down the brain (assuming we do not have unwanted dreams) and allows us to cope. I think what you describe is common and certainly within the realm of normal behavior.
Marty
posted by ophth
27 days ago
For me, it can and has gone both ways. Some Funerals rejoice the deceased life and that is good.
The last two I attended, I had to play the music for and that keeps me more occupied and my focus on what I have to do to make it appropriate for the family.
The best thing for me is to try to recall the good times, the good memories and hopefully some of the "not so good ones" will eventually fade away.
