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That's the dumb-A Michael Baisden. Why do he and that unfunny comedian always want to talk about female issues. They don't do any research-- just start flapping jaws.

I didn't think it was an issue. I do believe black women don't always honor each other the way we should. Why? I really don't know.

Hi----yes, it seems like the African-American women are against one another; it has been like that for years.....it is nothing new.....I say, some of the AA women are like that not all of them.....here is a website that I would like to share with you:www.sisters building sisters.com.....I hope that you all enjoy it......there have been recent articles in the Essence and Ebony and other black magazines recently on this issue.....we all need to support one another instead of trying to find something negative to say about one another.....I will close for now.....take care and god bless you all....I will be glad when I can afford to have my own computer in my home; so I can get on line more with Eons.

People always seem to accentuate the negative no matter who is in the forefront. It's a shame because there are just as many "sistahs" who work closely with others in making their segment of the world a little better. The ones that teach their daughters pride ... who work faithfully alongside their Black "brothers" and who are constantly ridiculed if they don't dot the "i" or cross the "t"!

We are NOT all like the rap singers protray!

There should be a law against the rap music that degrades the female black or white or chinese or whatever race.....and what makes it so bad these songs are making the big bucks.....so sad

That was the first error: listening to one of those Black shows.

Unbelieavable how shallow is their well of information and knowledge.
Sad, too.

Baisden, Armstrong, West, and the rest all flap their lips about issues they know very little about, i.e. Black women!

I've always wanted to know: who are they married to?
That's always the truth of their "beliefs."
Hmmmmm????

As for Black women mistrusting and dissing each other, it's pretty much true, unfortunately.
And it's not getting better.
Can't even broach the subject with some women.
Talk about in-a-hurry, quick, instant attitude !?!?!?! Sad.

As to why? Well, to be some of the smartest human beings in the known universe, Black women will diliberately and with malice ignore and avoid real discussion of differences. The discussion usually begins with, "I feel ...." and regardless of facts or reason, ends with "Well, that's the way I feel ..." .

There's no attempt to build coalitions based on real strengths rather than social ties.
And, as with Black men, ego always is in the way.

It's all tragic and hurtful to our progress but very much like most human beings

****sigh****

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I dislike generalizations as a rule, but this one in particular. There is an ongoing effort, perpetuated by the likes of Baisden and emblemized by movies, such as 'Mean Girls', that women are in some cutthroat competition. It just is not true. Women are very much girlfriend oriented. We are there for our girlfriends. Good news or bad news, we rush to tell our girlfriends. Our friendships span a lifetime. Waiting to Exhale and Girlfriends celebrate this kinship.

If anything, it is guys who have trouble with friendship. Guys relate on a very superficial level. They 'hang' but never completely interact. This is not a put down, just a statement of the nature of guys. They don't know the names of their buddy's kids. They may not know his last name or even his given name (he's just Skeeter, or Boo Boo). Typically, a guy's only confident is his woman.

I love my sistahs. I may dislike or have a dispute with one, but that's strictly personal. It's not right to extrapolate across a group like that.

Obamamama writes: Women are very much girlfriend oriented. We are there for our girlfriends.

That's my point. We are there for our girlfriends...but ONLY if they're OUR "girlfriends." And we will accept all manner of wrong-headedness from "our girlfriends" because they're "our girlfriends."

Unfortunately, "girlfriend" seems to be the criteria Black women use to determine whether they will "get along" with another Black woman. This is not good.

Black women will diss/ignore/excoriate/crucify another woman regardless of her skills and competencies and regardless of the project at hand ALL because "I don't like her. She's not one of us."

It's disappointing that Black women don't seem to "get" that it's not always about "love," and "girlfriend" but about "respect" and "colleague." i.e., We ain't got to love each other and be girlfriends in order to respect each other and work together as colleagues. So let's form a coalition and get busy and make some money, or get this project up and rolling, or build this building, etc. etc. etc.

Just doesn't seem to happen.

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I deliberately did not refer to black women. I don't think it's black or white or whatever. It's all women. We maintain a broad circle of friends. I don't know anyone at this stage in life hatin' other women. That's bunk created by men. Maybe I'm naiive, but seems to me most women I know are too busy with life to get into those issues.

Tell me, do you harbor these feelings you ascribe to many black women , or do you just recognize them in others?

See I just didn't get this one. Sure I have had problems with women. But when I really take a look at it those problems were more about personal style, or cultural. Most of my friends are women of all types. All of them would “low ride” if I needed them to. lol We network, keep each other sane. So I just don’t see this out and out war between women.