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I am sorry that you had to lose your loved child too.

Here we encourage all our mothers and fathers to celebrate the birth of their loved ones, to celebrate their lives. To introduce your child to us so that we may call him or her by their names and learn how fantastic a human being he/she was. If you let us know we all gather around in spirit in communion with all our kids to celebrate their birthdays.
The memory of our children keeps us going and no one should think or say to anyone that we should forget them. I think it is a travesty on the nature of motherhood and fatherhood.
You keep celebrating Deeflamingo. Let no one tell you differently.
Hugs Damian's Mom Leila

They are our children. It doesn't matter how long ago we lost them. They are our children and we hurt and grieve their loss. We have lost part of our future when we lose children. I often wonder what my son would be like as a grown man and I grieve the grandchildren I will never have because he is gone.
My loss was in 1994 and although the pain isn't as horrific, not a day goes by that I don't think of my Matty.

Oh Deeflamingo - How can we forget? My loss is recent... My 21 year old daughter Rachel died this past August 12th.........I can't imagine ever coming even close to forgetting. I know my pain will not be as debilitating with time ( I only believe that because I have read posts from people here that actually know) But....the memories are mine....I will always have them in my heart, my pictures, my videos, school papers, letters........all the things I am so glad I've saved. Even If I had not saved 'things' - she is forever in my heart - nothing can ever take those memories away - she will forever be a part of 'me' and that is how it should be.

with love and understanding,

yvette

Though our children are gone from the place called Earth, they will never be gone from our hearts, mind and memory. To say we should be over them or forget them is as Daffodil says, it will be a travesty on the nature of motherhood and fatherhood. My son, Rashad has been in heaven for about a year now, I may not cry everyday, but he is on my mind daily. I wonder as lost does, what kind of man he would have grown to be (he was 21 when he died), I grieve for the grandchildren I will never have from him because he is no longer here. You continue to celebrate your child's life, remember the good times you had, honor his memory in the way you see fit. Let no one tell you you should be over him...he was your child, part of you, the pain will lessen over time, but the hole in your heart will always be there. We understand because we are all on this journey and we are here for you.

Sending (((HUGS))) your way.

Rashad's Mom Danette

Thanks so much. I wish I had joined this site a long time ago. Only those that have experienced it, "til you've been through the fire, you don't know how it feels," and I'm very thankful others have this site to help them. I still cling to all the things he left behind and now they give me great comfort -- his notes from school, and a journal he kept when in college and beyond -- I am so thankful he kept all those things. I even have his tape from his phone where he recorded his message.

Hugs --

Curtis' mom --

How can you forget about someone that you carried around inside you for 9 months and nourished with your own blood? Sometimes people say the cruelest things. As others have said, we will always hold their memories in our hearts and NO ONE can take that away from us. I know it is hard on the fathers too but we moms were the ones that gave them life through our own bodies. My remark to someone that would tell me to forget about their birthdays since they are no longer here is: "Why would you say or think that?" That questions has made quite a few stop and think. You remember your son anyway you want to...God gave you that right..He chose you to be his mother!