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mawma... I am soooo sorry for your loss.... it matters not how long you were together, or how "perfect" your life was, you have lost your soul-mate and you are grieving... I'm glad you found this group - thanks to Casey for guiding you in our direction...

sometimes life is just not fair.... but we must push on....

((( HUGS )))

Joanne, my heart goes out to you. I'm so glad you found this group - it's been a lifeline for me. I know about 'rocky' and about the strong love that was still there. Together we can make it through this.
hugs...marty

Joanne,
I am so very sorry for your loss and I welcome you to the group. Thank you Casey for bringing you here. I am also so sorry that this is the second time you have lost your spouse and please come in the group often and post a message or just read some of the other messages and maybe reply to a few of them. You are so new to this grieving process and all I can tell you right now is to take things one day at a time and take baby steps in the healing process. There will be some good days and some bad days along this rocky road, but I promise you we will be with you with whatever you need from us. Don't be afraid to post a message with whatever you need to talk about and yes, ranting and raving are sometimes necessary. So welcome to the group and again I am so very sorry for your loss.
Hugs,
Kathy

Joanne,
My heart goes out to you. I would not want to live that first year following my husband's death over again for any reason. It is such a difficult and hard thing to bury the man you love. And to do it twice may be unbearable, but hang in there. We help each other here to get through the worst of it and some of us have gone down this path for such a long time that we hope to offer some comfort to you on your journey.

As beanie said, one day at a time - one hour at a time if needed. And please take care of yourself - that is so important as your body is tired from the grief and you can easily fall ill. We do not want that to happen to you. The best medicine for me was to cry out loud like a baby and just let the pain leave my body. The pressure on my chest would build until I had to let it out and then I would be okay for a while. So cry and scream out loud - we who hear your cries hold out our arms out to you in comfort. You are not alone!

Jane

Hello Jo anne Sorry to hear about your loss. Welcome to the group an please feel freee to poist when ever you feel like it. MAy the GOOD LORD BLESS YOU AN KEEP YOU SAFE JOE

Hello Joanne...as the others before me I welcome you to this group that none of us ever wanted to join ...but are so glad that the group is here. I am sorry for the loss of Wayne and I know that the grief is so recent that the pain is very strong. It doen't matter if it was 3.5 years or 85 years, if the marriage was the greatest or a little rocky...all those things do not count. What the fact remains is that you have lost your spouse that you loved and that you are now grieving. I am sorry that this is a second time around experience for you as well. It doesn't matter that you have gone through it before each person, each circumstance carries it's own special things and so each experience will be different. The one thing I would remind you is that you did get through the grief journey with the death of your first husband and you will make it through this time as well...it just takes that "time". As the others have said....take one day at a time, one step at a time. When you are overwhelmed step back take a few deep breaths and then try to determine what you must first do or face...handle that and then when that is complete the next will take it's place. One thing, one day, one step at a time.
You are still raw with the recent loss. Give yourself time to truly grieve and mourn. We are here to walk the journey with you and will help in any way we can. Take care of yourself....that has to be number one on your list. I am glad that you are here with us.........and thank you Casey for bringing Joanne to the group.

Hugs of friendship,
Jarcy