We don't shake hands or hug in church anymore, either. It is a good thing, I think.
I LOVE HUGGING...people don't do enough of that sort of thing....the human touch is a wonderful thing...it even heals.
Ok, I'm a non-hugger of strangers. I don't like it when people I don't know want to hug me. What is the purpose of hugging somebody you don't know? I have always reserved that as special for the people who are special to me.
Ladies and Gents ! I hug everyone on 1st dates, second meeting and every meeting! I think shaking the paw is so passé and some H/S are like wet noodles, with out feeling !!! why bother ?
And no one backs away from a sincere 2-3 second HUG .......
posted by nojrus
about 1 month ago
Nothing wrong with that nojrus, kind of beguiling! What I donnt like is a complete stranger trying to paw me! I am a very touchy feely type of person, but would never aproach a stranger in a ccasual setting and expect(or appreciate) being hugged.
I have never been into letting perfect (or imperfect) strangers hug me. What really is the point? They don't know me from Adam so they might as well be hugging a tree. I realize some people are just naturally more warm, affectionate and outgoing and like to express that to others. But, I think they also need to be mindful of the fact that not everyone likes that.
posted by anakris
about 1 month ago
Isn't interesting that the "Love Generation" has grown up to be much less likely to hug than any previous generation?
I have also noticed that many baby boomers, (People who have no trouble talking intelligently about sex.), often have a great problem when it comes to talking about love and the real feelings about love that all us share.
From "Free Love" in 1968, to "Don't Touch Me" in 2009.
Not that I am any better. I am as afraid to risk my heart as anyone.
I am not a "Hugger" either. (But I wish I was.)
I am pretty intuitive and if I am having conversation with someone I just get the feeling that they could use a hug, I do. Such a simple thing. I don't like the whole shaking hands thing and try to avoid it.
Hugging someone has nothing to do with risking one's heart. Yes, I hug men, women and children.
My parents did not hug or show affection to me or each other, so you can see why I am a hugger.
I think a lot has happened between 1968 and 2009 to have caused Boomers of the Love Generation to become less touchy feely. For one thing there are the STD's, HIV, AIDS, Herpes etc., the Manson murders, Jonestown, Jeffrey Dahmer, widespread divorce and a whole host of viruses touted as epidemics. It is no longer the same world it once was back in the 60's. With the onslaught of technology, Women's Lib, and the fast pace of living (now slowed down some by the recession)romance and genuine love have kind of gone by the wayside. Oh, it's still there only much harder to find. So please forgive me if I'm not all that anxious to have a total stranger throw his/her arms around me to give me a hug. I still like hugs but only from the people I have had the opportunity to get to know.
posted by anakris
about 1 month ago
Boomers that are less inclined to get a hug can always sit in the no-hugging pews at church. I think it matters little whether you catch the flu bug from someone you know, or a stranger. And from what I've seen, the youth of today are even more intimate with casual aquaintances than the flower children of the 60's. Sure, the world has changed, but so have we.
