arlee... It is suppose to be a healthy thing to be able to ask for help yet many of us struggle with it. You are absolutely right about "keeping on" because when it all boils down to it, that is what it's all about.
jc... Everyone has a different interpretation of independence. I've often met men who hated to hear that a woman considered herself independent yet many of us find ourselves having to be. Independence seems to be a strength to me and I recognize it, in all it's forms, in those with which I choose to interact.
i find that when i ask for help to do something, it usually takes quite a spell for the help to come around ... example: i needed a tree removed from the very front of my property that went down three years ago in a storm .. was pushing my fence .. well, the help came just about a month ago, when "they" wanted wood for the fireplace ... and i'm still missing a roof shingle off the bottom edge of my roof for 4 years now. the saddest thing is that my help lives right next door!
most of the time i'll just do it myself - one way or another. but it makes me feel really alone. i, like 2y, have a concern about injuring myself to where i couldn't get to a phone ... haven't figured that one out yet ...
withjoy...I'm not quite ready to get one of those things that hangs around your neck though. You know - push a button & they send an ambulance or the fire department!? Ha! (I've fallen & I can't get up!)
I have always done things for myself. Just about any chore you can think of. So now I'm forced to ask for help, not that I mind asking and I always get a yes of course I'll do that for you, and I know they would, the problem is when??? I usually wait a bit then remind them and wait a bit more then I call the repair man. The part that I really hate is not being able to do a lot of things myself.
In our town we have a Police service that's available to seniors or anyone living alone. Everyone that list's with them call in to the Station every morning to say everything's o.k. If the Police don't here from you by 10:00 am they will call you and if there is no answer a cruiser is sent to the home to find out why and make sure you are o.k..........
I own the real.......Aviator Club Bar & Grill.......Not just a group on Eons.....
I have always been totally independent and am very fortunate to be able to continue living that way -- Still do all my own house and car repair work and so forth -- I never worry about being alone except .... Well, I probably should not finish that though although this IS a singles group!
posted by v123
27 days ago
I believe we catch your drift, v123. And Tootsie, that's a great service the police department provides. I wonder how many towns/cities do the same thing? I live in a HUGE city and I'm pretty sure it's not available. It's probably easier to control something like that in smaller towns. I'm sure it's a comfort to many people who live alone to know they can take advantage of that. My mother lived (independently) in a retirement community, and neighbors would "communicate" with each other thru their porch lights. If there was a porch light on during the day, someone checked on that person.
posted by lynaz
27 days ago
