What was the original agreement? Sounds like it's time for a "family" meeting.
Before I moved in one person collected from the others money to buy major purchases of food and supplies for cleaning but this was forgotten after that persons moved out and I moved in later. I guess a meeting would be in order or to draw up a list of chores and supplies needed and ask for input, I get tired of being the only one responsible.
You are allowing the others to take advantage of you. Don't buy the extra for them and they will soon see the light. If they don't then to bad for them. They are adults aren't they?
posted by Naya1
over 2 years ago
Who was responsible before you moved in? I would not be buying all the supplies! I would agree a meeting is in order. I thought maybe it was your home and you were renting out the rooms. My aunt who live in a similar situation said they had a "cookie jar" and each person put so much money in there and that is what they used to pay for food and supplies. This was several years ago and each put in $100. Not sure that would cover it today.
Does everyone have equal income? Is one person less financially able to pay than the others? I would say if one buys the stuff the others should do the cleaning!
But yes a 'family meeting' seems to be in order. My son lives here but I had to tell him recently that HE provides the TP for his own bathroom and everytime he grocery shops, to pick up one roll of paper toweling too - only 84 cents at Walmart and he uses it for napkins. He has his own cleaning supplies from his last apartment but I will be darned if he ever has used them. They are sitting on the counter of his bathroom (where I put them) with cleaning rags...for about a week. Do you think he will get the idea? I will let it sit there another week before I ask him if the germs allow him to use the bathroom or not.
My son vacuum's and does yard work, my niece occasionally cleans the bathroom she share and will wash her dish out only but the other roommate only cleans his room and does not seem to notice the rest of what needs to be done. I blame this on his mother as he had three sisters and they did all the housework, he being the man of the house only had to go to work and come home to dinner, nice huh? I pay for the cleaning supplies as I get disgusted if things get grungy and you do have to have something to get the job done.
did the room mate thing a few times in my life. every one pulls together or they get out. told every one that up front. and stuck to it. after a while i went and got renters agreements. you can download them online now, i guess.
make every one sign when they move in. it is legal and can be used to call the law to evict if folks want to idiots about it.
that one guy needs to grow up. when i was young my parents taught me every thing.
from building a house from the ground up to sewing my own clothes on a machine. remember when peasant clothes were popular. made my own. and made my own pillow furniture.
their thing was they weren't going to be around forever and i needed to know how to do for my self.
My daughter had a problem when she worked for the Ivy League and they put her in an apartment with a guy. After a while she got tired of buying all the TP, paper towels, cleaning stuff, etc. so she kept it locked in her closet. Seemed stupid to me at first but then I realized the guy she was living with was expecting her to clean, buy groceries, etc for them both with no monetary help or elbow grease. It was a great experience for her because it made her think twice about just moving in with someone, especially a guy!
My daughter lives with me, and she is into slacking off on buying basics and doing housework. I stopped letting her have access to toilet paper, cleaning supplies, etc., stopped cleaning areas that she mostly uses, and limit my food buying to only things she hates. Unless it's for my grandson, then I will buy bread at the outlet store, and will share anything out of the garden.
She's into whining about how I never clean, or go shopping, but will eventually get around to doing it. I keep telling her my job is to do the yard, since she won't even set foot in it, let alone do upkeep. This goes by spells, every once in a while it dawns on her that she's an adult and expected to carry her own weight, so she does it for a while.
i was thinking of having a room mate but decided no one could live with me. i would have to be considerate of my hours of being awake and staying up late at night and cooking at odd hours.
if i was in the situation like i said i would expect consideration from my room mate/mates. there should be a meeting and rules and regulations should be agreed on esp monetary matters and chores. if not then you got to get drastic. buy enough for you lock the rest up, but who wants to live that way i would rather move.
