To each his own, but definitely not for me. I'm a monagamous person and wouldn't be in a relationship with someone who didn't feel the same. No wiggle room on that one for me.
Not for me. To me, a marriage is between two people. Once others come into that relationship in an intimate fashion, it's not just between the two of them any longer, and to me, that means the marriage is over. Now, what other people do is their business, especially as long as they're not hurting anyone else (i.e., truly open about it and not cheating)
I guess it depends on the promice you made on your Wedding Day.
If you promiced to, "Be there when you weren't with someone else", I guess it would not be cheating.
On the other hand, if you stood up in front of God and everybody, and promiced the things that I have heard promiced in most Church Weddings, you are cheating by breaking your word to everyone who heard you give them your word that you would honor your marrage vowels.
Do you really think that God would not think you were "Cheating" him?
Even worse, you would be cheating yourself. You would be disrespecting your own honor.
Most of us have failed in a relationship. That is bad enough. Agreeing to cheat, is pretty low.
Michael
If both parties fully agreed to have an open marriage then it is not cheating. On the other hand many open marriages don’t have both parties quite as committed to the openness. One or the other agrees to keep the other partner in the relationship and are hurt by the situation. I could do it because I don’t look at sex as more then a very enjoyable physical activity. Then again I have never cheated once I agreed to be monogamous relationship. I would also not ever suggest the option as most women don’t want to go there and would be hurt by the suggestion. While I got married in a church my promise was not to God or the Priest or the people there but only to my X. I was monogamous because I promised to her I would stay true and my integrity would let me do no other.
Come to think of it........I was involved in two open marriages.......I just didn't know it. I didn't get the memo.
posted by usmcma
about 1 month ago
I had two friends in an open marriage. He approached me several times about starting whatever might be a relationship in that context, but I was "just not that in to him." Not the physical type that pressed my buttons. I also thought I could never have the relationship I wanted to continue to have with his wife id I slept with him. Frankly, she was far more attractive to me, but not in a sexual way. So, over a ten year period, I always said "no" to him. I was sad to learn that they eventially divorced, but after at least 25 years of marriage.
posted by Levisa
about 1 month ago
