I sure do believe in love at first sight. In February, 2006, I saw a man at an event--W O W--when I saw him walk into the room, I thought--I really would like to meet him--get to know him! Someone introduced me to him on that same day--however,in a round about way, I discovered he was involved with someone--he and I did not have a conversation--we were introduced--and there was just a minute of casual talk. I never talked to him on a personal basis--because I did not want to create yet another problem in my already too complicated life. Two years later, I discovered that he was not as caught up--as most people thought-- with the person I was told he was involved with. In Nov, 2007, I did have the oppportunity to communicate with him one- on- one; I was much too shy to speak more than just very casual to him! It seemed that he did try to initiate a conversation with me--but since I was so overwhelmed by the mere presence of him, I slowly just walked away. In June of 2008, he married someone whom no one seemed to know he was even involved with! W O W! I still think of him quite often. In my mind, he was maybe the most intriguing man I ever met!
sure did, once!When I was 15, my best friend wanted me to walk with her to meet her new boyfriend, he lived in the next town and they were meeting 1/2 way. All the way there she was telling my how beautiful his eyes are, how cute he is etc. When we were almost at meeting point, I spotted this guy leaning against a tree, my heart almost jumped out of my chest As soon as I caught my breathe she pointed and said there he is!! While we were all together, he kept staring at me too and niether of us even heard what my friend was saying...end of my friendship! We were together all through school and married shortly after. Unfortunately it ended in divorce, but how I loved that guy from the second I seen him!
I do believe in love at first sight. Sometimes someone attracts you as soon as you meet or see them...is it a soulmate kinda thing? I also think friendships can be like this but without the romantic feelings.
The first time I laid eyes on Skip, my ex, my parents said they watched me fall in love. Mama told Daddy that night that was the man I was going to marry and she was right. I fell in love that night. So, yes I do believe in love at first sight.
I believe in "something" at first sight...but is it really love? I don't know and I've struggled with this actually. I think I believe as starrybright does, in that it's a soul mate kinda thing, but can also happen with friendships. Why are we so comfortable with some people but not others, right from the start? I would like to believe in love at first sight, but not sure I do. "Lust" at first sight, perhaps. lol...
Seadreamer: I can tell you for sure that what I felt for my first love was not lust. I won't allow myself to even go there. I am a romantic and I think pure lust can ruin that.
I am definately a romantic, too, OneEyedDiva...and I desperately want to believe in love. I just haven't had the best of luck in that area but I'm genuinely happy for those who have experienced it, and believe me, I'd love for someone to convince me that it does exist! I'm really happy to hear that what you and your first love felt was true love.
Falling in love is usually believing that another person will "complete" you, and together you will be better, more capable, or whatever, than you would be apart. The qualities you admire in another are often those you feel you do not have yourself. The same goes for good friendships.
I think "Love at First Sight" is infatuation with a person's looks, mannerisms, talents, personality or whatever. Real love comes into being with getting to know another person intimately.
Yes, that's what I was trying to say, Barb! Thank you! I didn't mean to "discount" falling in love...it's just that I think it usually involves infatuation also, at first. Hopefully, it continues to grow.
BARBI....if your theory is correct then at least the stories above and mine and others I know of prove that infatuation can indeed lead to real love. I love the psychology of relationships and this has always been an intriguing subject to get feedback for.
