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i live in florida, so i don't really know..but i think atlanta is a stable community for a black family..you should look into it..

I lived in Atlanta for 6 years....it is a wonderful community for individuals of any ethnic background. I now live in Texas and do not recommend it.

My step daughter moved to Atlanta a couple of years ago. Haven't heard of any problems. I'll see if I can find out more.

I know about Atlanta. Does anyone know about other places like Hilton Head, Ashville, Savannah, Myrtle Beach?

I lived in Savannah for four years and I'm near Charlottesville, VA right now.
Downtown Savannah was beautiful...if one has the money to live there.
It broke my heart to see many blacks being moved out of the Victorian area so that bigger and more expensive condos could be built.
I went into many of the schools with my career at that time... and was irate to see that most folks send their children to private schools while the public schools are falling apart and being condemned. THIS?? In a country that supposedly is a top nation in the world?! I complained because I grew to love the "Urban Hope" children I worked with...mostly black and so eager to learn and participate in something fun.
A few of the churches in the area didn't want them to use their facilities...which also made me so disgusted. These folks call themselves people of God?!?!?
Outside, in the burbs, the large 55 plus places are very elitist for the most part. I wanted no part of them and we finally moved up to Virginia.
We're now in a small town out in the country. The people are friendly, but it's mostly white with "kin" in the area. Blacks live here as well, but there is the same old "undercurrent" of feelings when it comes to black versus white for the most part.
Hilton Head is elitist...don't know about the others.
My husband and I are planning to move back up to the NY/NJ area when the economy rolls around.
I know racial feelings are still in pockets all around the country, but the South, even though it changed with many folks moving in from other areas of the country, is still "the South" in my eyes.

Thanks for all the information...

I highly recommend Asheville, North Carolina, It's a pocket of the South that you would feel very comfortable in. It's a beautiful city with many interesting neighborhoods, a University of North Carolina branch, and lots of culture: theater, and music of all kinds. Why not take a trip and visit the exquisite Biltmore estate and perhaps go to some open houses for the mid city condos, Politically, Asheville is very liberal, while the small towns around it ,aren't. Asheville is the home of many artists and craftspeople. There is an arboretum, an airport, the Blue Ridge Parkway, I could go on and on. Good luck.

Here's a website that tells it from the perspective of an African American

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Mapsy

You had some good comments about small southern towns and the white people having their "kin" living close by. I had some experience with that and my recommendation is to get out of there. That clannishness is very bad for your health if you dont happen to be a member of one of the clans. I imagine the northeast would be less clannish, particularly in medium sized towns. Am I right? I find the urban pacific northwest to be very non-clannish, as many people have moved here from far away places and do not have lots of "kin" living nearby. It sounds like you need something more cosmopolitan than what you have in that small southern town. Seriously, you need to get out of there.

Thank you Mark. You read me well.
I'm originally from NJ and have moved 18 times with my husband's job, so I've gotten used to many places and can adjust fairly well...until we moved here.
Since we retired, my husband has preferred the South because of the warmer temperatures and good golf season.
I cannot tolerate heat or humidity anymore...been there, tried that.
We both now see what mistakes we have made and want to go back to NJ (close to NYC).
The economy is keeping us from doing just that. Our builder, Ryan Homes, left our development high and dry. Our local roads are not finished... and we are all beside ourselves, as it has brought down our property values lower than most are already.
Our home is worth about 1/4 what we paid for it...if that.
We are so blessed and fortunate that we can hang onto it. However, as you say, being close to a small town filled with "kin" is just making us more depressed.
If we were younger, we'd head out West...we love the Seattle area especially, even though it rains a lot. The attitudes are different as well.
If we could swing it, I would be out of here in a New York minute...no pun intended.
Until then, we have no real choice.
I so miss the culture...and I do go to church regularly, but in this town, it's a 24 hour committment each and every day.
I need to be back amongst mixed religions and nationalities...much more understanding and tolerant of others different from themselves.