What might have been

Message 311 of 1423

I'm sitting here at 5:00 A.M. contemplating what might have been. Tomorrow, the 31st, will be my Cory's 30th Birthday. We are thankful for true friends who remember our Daughter. Barb is a close friend and former co-worker of my wife's. She has completed a stained glass sunflower, knowing that this year is a particular tough one to get through. Cory decorated her house in Sunflower's. I'll post a picture of the sunflower on my profile page.
We all at some time, dream of what our children would be like, had they stayed here with us. I imagine a mature woman, independant as she always was, in the midst of writing her first book, probably with more children. She loved children and being a good mother was her life long desire and accomplishment.
I'll always miss being able to have a mature relationship with my baby girl. It's tough to get through at these anniversary times, but we'll try and make the best of what we have.

posted by silveradod96

I could so relate to your words silveradod. I also wonder what kind of man my son would have grown up to be. I grieve for the part of his life I will never know and for the children he never had.
I hope that your day went okay. The birthdays, anniversary dates and holidays can be so hard for those of us who have lost children.
Thoughts are with you and your family.

posted by DeBeachGal
over 2 years ago

I know what you mean, my son was 16 when he passed away and has been gone for 8yrs. I wonder what he would be doing now, would he be married, would I have more grand children now. I miss him. It is so very nice when someone does something nice in memory of our child, like your sunflower.
I hope you find peace and comfort each time you look at it.

posted by Drewsmom
over 2 years ago

I think we all wonder what our children would have been and how different our lives would be. My son loved children and I was always imagine how happy he would have been having a family . He died 6 months before he was to get married with his long term fiance . They were ready to start a family but life had other plans . I get very sad and try no to think about any of that but the fact that he was my only child just makes it so much harder. It makes us feel so good when people remember them in such special ways ! I am sure that sunflower holds a very special meaning for you today.

posted by Giankarlosmom
over 2 years ago

My son would have become a grandfather on September 1st. The baby....a boy was born on my angel son's birthday. That was amazing! Something tells me he was saw the whole thing from heaven. Yet I am haven't seen my great grandchild since his birth. I guess I am afraid to lose him too. Our losses forever change us.

The holidays are coming and it will be tough. I drift away from Eons but always come home. God bless you all.

posted by Lorriehb
over 2 years ago

silveradod96 I always wish to be here when there is a special day for one of us, but, I wasn't able to. It's such a difficult time. I hope that your day was peaceful and that the beautiful memories that Barb left with you flooded yours and your family's week.