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Nobody wants to join, but there is comfort in being here. I am sorry for your loss. I am glad that you have found your way here, this is a great group of caring folks who absolutely understand. Venting here is acceptable any time!

I am so sorry for your loss. None of us want to be here but I am glad you came. You will find lots of support, compassion, caring and understanding. We are all here for you so come anytime and tell us how your are feeling, especially when you have those times when you need to talk to someone who understands. I hope you have a peaceful day. Hugs......Sue

the first year is so very very tough but hang in there, with lots of effort and work on your part, you can walk the grief journey and come out the other side stronger...the time line for everyone is different so don't rush yourself. Come here and post when the roller coaster ride is difficult.

Hugs,
lani

I am sorry for your loss. I lost my husband in January. He was only 48. You will find that all of us here have the same problems of no one wanting to truly listen to how much pain we are in. So this is the best place to let it all out. I find it to be quite healing. Sometimes I just read other posts and sit and cry. Sometimes I vent about the injustice of it all. Whatever works for you. We are here to help each other. Deb

I am sorry for your loss and that you have a reason to be here. We all have those moments where we just need someone to talk to. Someone that will listen to how we feel instead of telling us how we should feel. You have found that place. You will find much compassion here. I understand how a song or scent can cause the flood gates to open again. It has happened to me many times. You are not alone. Joyce

Please accept my prayers and thoughts as you wend your way through this maze of recovery. I come here often because I need someone to talk to, and the people here in this group listen to me and keep me on track. It's a wonderful group, thanks for coming around.

You have found the place to come..All the folks here will lend an ear and try to help you through what you are going through at the time..They have bailed me out when I truely thought this was the end of the road..Here no one judges you or trys to tell you what you should do or think...I've posted that some of my behavior was irrational and maybe I was a little bit crazy..I had so many post and defend me and alot saying they felt the same way..My husband died Sept. 5th 2008 and its been almost 14 months. Some say the first year is the roughest and some say the 2nd, I am with the latter group, we were married 40+ years and the longer he's gone the more I miss him...Anyways God Bless Dawn

I just cannot get over how young so many of the people who have passed are.

I was told Arthur was so young- at 67 but 40+ ? My mother passed at 52 and everyone thought she was so young but I was only 21, I thought she was old ! My Dad passed away at 83 and that was OLD ! Now that I am 62, 83 doesn't seem THAT old.

I am so sorry for all the losses ---

@grannieofthree -- ain't it the truth, ain't it the truth. I'm 66, Bill 72; up until about 3 months before he died, he could have passed for a younger man. I don't FEEL old, but of course I am past that magic median age...

Sincere condolences, and I'm sure we could all use some {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

Hi there ozarkreader

It is truly amazing how many different stories are shared and how similar they all are at the end.
So many, so young, handling young children-
Remember the young lady who lost her husband to suicide last year? She was so totally devastated. I often wonder how she is doing- She had so much to deal with and I sincerely hope her children are being taken care of.

No time is easy or fair- young and so hard to deal with every day issues- homework, holidays, birthdays ..
middle age- hope to meet and try to start a new life, but the anxiety of sharing your family and the other family, Oy. Older (hmmm) fear of the future, starting over with new ideas and new issues and having to deal with health issues all over again.

I am finding that after only 13 months, I don't feel the need to start over again. Working all day and coming homto make dinner, dishes, laundry and odds/ends. I seem to be able to come home, enjoy my cat sitting on my lap or on my shoulder, talking to her and I can eat what I wan and whenever - Going to the movies after work at the drop of a hat, meeting my best friend for coffee at any given time......

Who the hell am I kidding ..... I miss my hubby so much- the teasing, the laughing at each others habits, the angers, the joys. Actually- I could do almost all the above things when he was home ! He never minded if I ran for coffee with my friend, (after dinner that is ! ) Because he left the house at 10 p.m. and came home at 7:30 a.m., I was and am used to being alone at night, so that is why I don't feel the lonliness as much as others.

But sometimes I have to admit I smile while in the shower when I know it is 7:30 a.m. ! He used to forget that if he flushed the toilet, the hot water would turn off, and every now and then the condo could hear me scream ! LOL

So- the good, the bad and the ugly of our changing lives. I wish all of us smiles, good memories and accept the sad times as well.
It is 12:58 a.m. and time to try to get some sleep.

Hugs to all
Susan

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