Message 265 of 1538

Bullies...a national disgrace

I submitted this is another group and thought I'd share it here to get your feedback on what is a disturbing subject:
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I was watching the program yesterday afternoon (Blackboards and Bullies: Are Your Kids Safe?) and experienced a myriad of emotions: anger, frustration and disgust at what is a steadily growing problem (bullying) for our young people today.

Here are some statistics for starters:

23% of American children reported gangs are operating within their schools
16,000 arrests for assault are made in schools yearly
128,000 teachers have been assaulted in schools
600 arrests made for sexual assault in schools

There was one family featured where the 15-year-old son of a teacher committed suicide after continual bullying not only at school, but bullying online as well, which is better known as “cyberbullying”. And the arrogant little bastard who was the perpetrator was shown in a clip from Good Morning America looking smug and saying that he had no feeling about what had happened partially as a result of his behavior. I could have smacked the smirk off of his face! The irony was that the jerk who called this boy “faggot” on the internet didn’t look particularly masculine to me.

Another teacher was featured who had been assaulted (with brass knuckles) so viciously by a student after he attempted to break up a hallway fight that he may not be able to return to teaching. The punishment for the vermin who committed this horrible crime? A year in juvenile detention.

This doesn’t sound like America to me. It sounds more like Beirut. This was just a one hour program; which means this is merely a thumbnail sketch of the big picture regarding what our children face on a daily basis. No, I’m not a parent, but that doesn’t mean I don’t have any feelings for the type of environment that children attempt to receive a decent education in today.

Sure, there were bullies when we were in school. Kids may have been teased and/or shoved, but even in the worst neighborhoods, I don’t think it was at this proportion.

And…another important fact: THIS IS NOT SOLELY AN INNER CITY PROBLEM! This is becoming more prevalent in affluent suburbs and rural communities, so people who think that their child or grandchild is attending a “safe” school away from the “elements” needs to think twice.

You can run, but you damn sure can’t hide from the reality of the situation.
GlamDiva57's profile
i didn't watch the show, but i share your concern.

when we raised our two boys i passed on to them what my mom always told me. don't start a fight, but be damned sure you finish it. don't think those words would help that much these days.

i do know that during the 6 years i was in the United States Naval Sea Cadet Corp,(USNSCC) i watched dozens of kids come from all kinds of places and learn to work together. sounds cliche i know, but it is true.

i don't think there are enough things we as adults can do to help kids grow up. it shouldn't take a village, but many parents are either too isolated in their own lives or just don't give a shit. pisses me off.

it isn't all the kids or the parents or the schools....i think we have really dropped the ball here as in so many other places.
moly12's profile

4 months ago
So, what do we do to try and fix it? My grandson wears very thick glasses and has since he was just one and one half. He grew up not knowing he had a "disability". When he went to kindergarden, the kids would tease him. He and I would talk about it because of course, initially he was bothered by it. When I explained that mean kids do that because they don't feel the love or have people hug them or be nice to them (and so on) he more understood and became tolerant of this one boy especially. In the first grade, the bully tried his crap with Austin again. When he told me about it, I asked him how should we handle it. The solution we both came up with was to ignore the young man since he was seeking attention. The next weekend, I asked Austin if the kid bullied him and he said no, I ignored him and he bothered someone else. Apparently, Austin had a chat with the other young fella because the bully quit trying to bully him also. I guess taking it one step at a time is a start but I sure wish we had an answer to the bigger picture.
grammy02's profile

4 months ago
agreed. one person at a time is always a good start.
moly12's profile

4 months ago
the whole public school system is in chaos...public education is an entrenched bureaucracy that is beyond repair.... kids have changed, education requirements are in a constant flux, and parents take the to-hell-with-it approach to raising their kids...

I'm a fan of private education and vouchers...
Uglywang's profile

4 months ago
our kids were privately educated up to high school, then they opted to go to public school. i think it really made a difference.
moly12's profile

4 months ago
Tell it to Obambi - he'll fix it!
filbert23's profile

4 months ago
Contrary to popular belief, he can't fix everything Filbert ......
grammy02's profile

4 months ago