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Hello, my name is Samantha and I am 20 years old. This past March I lost my six-week-old daughter to a heart defect. This is my first support group and I have to admit I am a little scared. The doctors have me on anti-depressants and everyone thinks I should talk to someone. I know I need to, but I can't help but thinking no matter who I talk to, she'll never come back. I have returned to work and put my soul into my job (I work at a photography studio). I keep my head high and pretend everything is okay. Only people who are close to me know my pain. Some days I think everything is okay, and she's better off not suffering. But other days, like today, I don't want to get out of bed. Kaydance was in the hospital hooked to wires and breathig tubes her whole life. And sat beside her the whole six weeks watching her fight. And fight she did, she never gave up until the very end. I'm so young and I feel like my life has just stopped. No matter how happy I am, the pain will never go away.
I really hope this group helps. Thank you in advance for all of your support.
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So sorry to hear of your loss Samantha and you have come to the right place. Everyone in this group knows what it's like to loose a child, we are all on this journey together. Nothing to be afraid of here, we all understand your pain and all the feelings you are having. Great group to belong to, a lot of caring, compassionate and very understanding people in this group. There will always be a hole in your heart, over time the pain may lessen, but the hole will still be there. Grieve when you feel the need and the way you feel, do not let anyone tell you there is a right or wrong way to grieve and that is a timetable to your grieving, that is one thing I have learned. There will be good days and bad days, on the bad days, come here, post as much as you like, we are here for you. If you ever need to talk, please feel free to PM any one of us and we will be gald to help you in whatever way we can. Just know that you are not alone.
Hi Samantha and welcome to our "family", thats what we have become here!I am so sorry for the loss of your precious little one. Crochetmom is right, there is no right or wrong way to grieve, each of us grieve in our own way, but it is good to know that everyone here understands. We all know that we all have to find our "new normal" because it will never be the same again.People who have not gone through this loss say and do things, meaning well, but are hurtful..they just donnt understand!
Kaydance, what a beautiful name ! Post or pm anytime we will be here for you.
Hello Samantha, I am so terribly sorry for your loss. However, I encourage you to get involved in a good support group such as The Compassionate Friends. If your darling baby was being treated at one of the Children's hospitals I have been told that they also have groups to help bereaved parents.
We are here for you and open our hearts to you. Writing about your loss is also very helpful. I also recommend reading books on Grief and Loss. It really does help to know that your feelings are "normal" and to learn how others have survived such a loss.
Hi Samantha, I am so sorry for the loss of your baby daughter. Kaydance is a beautiful name. You came to the right place, whatever you are feeling is normal. She was with you such a short time but her life is important and precious.
Please come here any time you want to share, vent, or rant. We have all been there and will understand. Don't let anyone tell you to get over it, or other silly things. People don't know what to say, so they often say the wrong thing or avoid talking to you. We welcome you with arms wide open and love in our hearts. We are a family here and you are most welcome. Hugs, JoAnne
Hello Samantha,
I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter, Kaydance. I agree with all the others that posted before me.
You are young, but the pain from a loss of a child knows no age barriers. You are right--talking will not bring her back. If only that were true. But it does help to share your feelings especially with others who can understand that pain you are feeling.
So come here, maybe try Compassionate Friends. It is a great group, too. Don't be afraid to open your heart. For most of us, that helps.
Thinking of you. Sandra
When my son first died. I could not stop crying. So many fell I thought for sure I would dry up. Still the tears kept coming, Tears came when I would try so hard not to cry. . Tears would come from just a word or a reminder. Tears came I was alone. They would come if I spoke his name. The tears would not quit falling.
But I now know with every tear that fell I was closer to healing as much as one can from the lose of a child.
So dear you let those tears go any time, any 'place, any where, you want them to fall and gr eave any way you need to. You have that right!
You will never get over losing her , but dear it does get tolerable with time.believe me. That lump in the pit of you stomach does leave eventually. That ache in your arms from wanting to hold them will subside.
I take comfort in know some day I will see him again and I have wonderful memory's.. She must have been a very special little girl for the Lord to take her so soon.
Dear Samantha
I too have an experience I would like to share with you. Back in 1975, my older sister lost a 6 week old daughter when she became ill with meningitis. Nancy was her name. The sad thing is, we, as her siblings, minimized her loss and went on with our lives as if nothing had happened. It wasn't until I lost my own Daughter in 2000, that I realized how much my sister had suffered in silence all those years. I guess what I'm trying to say is, you can't blame people for not understanding. No one can understand what it is like to loose a child until it happens to you. We too, feel your loss. You came to the right place. And yes, Kaydance is such a beautiful name. Hold her memories close to your heart.
I am so sorry for your pain. God Bless you.
So sorry for the loss of your beautiful baby. I hope you come and talk to us often. I'm so sorry something so painful has befallen you at such a young age. I was 22 when I lost a new baby, at that age you just never think something like that can happen to you. I know it's so hard to accept such an event, god bless you and take care of yourself. Everyone here is loving and kind, hoping we can help.
Hello Samantha and you took the right first step by coming into this site. First of all I am not going to say that I am sorry for you loss, for your child is not lost and we all know that she is an Angel. A precious flower that was plucked by God. I know about what you are going through, for my 22 years old son took his wings and flew. I try to in public have that great big smile and all the time I am hurting so badly for him. I tell you just keep on asking the Lord to give you the strength to climb this mountain, and know that since you are here at this site, you have many that will send up prayers for you at all time. I know for a fact that I shall keep you in your prayers.I will be here for you!
