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Ungrateful or Not?

A male co-worker of mine tells me he had an unpleasant experience this week with his 24 year old daughter who is currently living at home, working and going to college.

She confronted him and was complaining to him as if she was his mother. She enrolled in college immediately upon finishing high school with his help. Attended two years and decided she did not want to continue. He paid for her college expenses. Now she is upset because he does not buy food for the house and she blames him for her not being with her looser boyfriend who my co-worker said had no future nor ambition. If there is a need for heating oil in the house and he is traveling on business, she calls to tell him instead of calling the oil company and paying for it. She is using her "good" salary on herself. To me it is ridiculous that she expects him to treat her as if she is 18 years old. My son is the same way and he is 30 years old.

Some children these days have the audacity to speak to their parents as if the parents are their children instead. It is ridiculous.
celmira9's profile
My 40 year old son is the same way - calls me on the phone and reads me the riot act about things I supposedly did to him in his life. He has been in jail about a third of his adult life. I have always been there for him when he needs something, ie., MONEY! I am getting fed up with his stuff!
Jim
Monteguy's profile

about 1 month ago
If she has a good salary, time for her to move her butt out! See exactly what it is like to be a real adult! Good for her father for not giving in, but I think he should give her 30 days notice to move. Don't you agree?
carladieg's profile

about 1 month ago
Buying heating oil for the home is not the responsibility of this 24 year old daughter even if she lived there rent free and had her college education paid for during those two years. Why? Because this girl's good salary cannot be that "good" and her father's house with or without her living there needs to be heated. And paying for our children's college expenses if we can afford it is a gift we give to them-- and even if she stopped after two years, she still is more educated than before. Sometimes people think 18 is the magic number for our children to be completely independent. Maybe if they join the military that might be true but looking backing now that my daughter is 37 I can see how young 24 years old really is nowadays and many young adults are far from being "real" adults.
Patticake48's profile

about 1 month ago
You have a point Patticake48. I still think if she can buy a nice car and travel, she can buy oil.
celmira9's profile

about 1 month ago
Do these 20-30-40 yr old kids realize that if we were to be living by their standards, we would be expecting or 70-80-90 yr old parents to be taking care of us? Am I wrong here? I am tired of the double standards they live by. Holding themselves to one standard and holding us to another.....It does not work that way.....Unfortunately, we know how to give and receive love and respect but these kids don't even want to try it....what a waste for them.......
panana2000's profile

about 1 month ago
I would tell her if she's that cold, buy come oil for the heater.
AnniMay's profile

29 days ago