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Marti's right....the list does shrink considerably when you meet that certain someone. Love doesn't take lists into account. But Judy's right...it is interesting to get the gentlemen's view of 'the perfect mate'.

Well Marti the thing with me is that I am busy. Work, my sons and my hobbies take a lot of my time. So I don’t have a lot of time to share with someone else. My youngest won’t be out of high school for another 9 years. I will need to work for at least another 15 years to catch up with what I have lost due to the recession. So the thing is that I make time to see someone but it is not a lot. The woman I am dating now works nights as a scrub teck in the delivery room. She has been doing that for 20 years. There are only 2 or 3 days a week we are both awake at the same time and I can get to see her. That is what I mean if we have the time and we can work each other into our lives.

If some one doesn’t want to camp then fine my sons and I will go without her. I am more of a motel person then a 5 star hotel person. I have never used room service. The fanciest I have ever been is a cruse for the honeymoon. I spent whole summers in a tent in Bush Alaska working my way through college as a surveyor or for fish and game. I know the out of doors and quite frankly love it. I can bake pies and cakes on a Colman stove and have been learning how to do dishes in a Dutch oven. You haven’t lived until you have taken the arctic survival training class from the Air Force in Fairbanks in the winter and camped out for two day in the snow. Now that is cold!!!!!!!!!!!

Now don’t get me wrong Marti I think you are a great person from what I have read here on Eons. We just wouldn’t click as a romantic couple. On the other hand I have met women who love the type of things I like. You and I have had very different experiences in life and have different expectations. It doesn’t mean either of us is wrong or right just different.

Oh and Ladydulcinea if I am lucky I will be moving to Sitka. I will be going up for an interview with the City for an engineering position with them next week. That would be my dream job.

Work, my sons and my hobbies take a lot of my time. So I don’t have a lot of time to share with someone else. Then it seems you would not actually be out looking for someone with whom to share your life, but just to date casually from time to time. That's fine. But for casual dating, you sure do have a long laundry list of preferences this chick has to have.

My previous response to you was just tongue in cheek. And to set the record straight, I have done the popup camping, the primitive ground tent camping, lived one whole summer in a two person camp traveling in the south. I have lived on a houseboat, and in a trailer, and 8 months in a RV traveling around. I have cooked and lived in inconvenient accommodations, and I am done with that. I am probably a lot older than you. At this stage of my life, I am going for comfort, convenience and somebody else to do the cleaning.

And quite frankly, I don't think MOST women in the over 50 crowd want a guy who is willing to see them only when he has nothing better to do. No thanks, don't do us any favors, buckeroo. We're also past that stage, too.

It seems that relationships have now become a matter of "what fits into MY lifestyle and schedule". We have to remember just how old we all are ie: mostly 50's and 60's? And that there are almost zippo people out there who are going to match our particularly criterion to a tee. It only will get worse as we get older until we reach a point where our only criterion will be that the person is breathing. I think we should have some basic specifications ie: religious faith, professional/non-professional, and maybe even race but if we get too picky beyond that we may very well be sitting at the computer in the Dating Reality Group still complaining about how we can't find anybody 10 years from now. I personally know a guy just like that who had so many specifications since he was in his 30's. Hundreds of dates later now at 71 the last time I saw him he was still crying the blues about how there are no women out there who are a match for him. He lives by himself out in the country and doesn't even have a pet because he cannot find a cat, dog, or bird who is good enough to share his abode with him. I think he is looking for one that doesn't poop. Not putting anybody down or saying we should just "settle" for what we don't want. But I think at the same time we should really start to think more realistically.

Well Marti is right in her two responses, and is a great gal who has wisdom and knowledge, I am still gaining my knowledge, even tho I have 0ver 30 years of traveling and "school of hard knocks" (lol) and some college edumacation (which I am pursuing now, even at my old age, GI Bill use it or loose it) and sure if I find the right one then the checklist goes out the window, (which is half way out now), but it is still interesting to read these, dream a little dream for me, and wonder. One day there will be on then who knows where it will go from there. Thanks for reading.