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What am I?

Hi
I just joined. I belonged to another sensitive group once before but the one that created it left as manager and the group changed, so I just found you, and decided to join.
In the other group I found out I was a sensitive.
My question is about being an empath/ I don't know how to word what I want to ask... exactly. From as far back as I can remember I have always been sensitive to others feelings, as well as my own. I never wanted to hurt anyone, but boy did I ever get hurt. I see that now as... I had to get stronger. Does an empath always feel what others are feeling, or is it selective? When I see ones in danger, like someone that is up high, I literly hurt in my body. I asked others about this and they do not. Then at times it has to be someone that is emotionally attached to me when I feel hurt in my body. What's up with this?
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posted by bamasmom
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It takes both a Sender and Receiver to make a connection. Being "Tuned In" also helps. The closer you are to someone, the easier it is to connect. Our Defensive System may kick in to prevent over load. I spent so many years with mine turned on that it is hard to relax it now. Some one who is truly A Sensitive and an Empath, can not knowingly hurt someone close to them. The Emotional Feedback would be too much. It is hard to shield Feelings and Emotions from close ones. This is a big part of why I am a Solitary Single. Art
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posted by ArthurCook
about 1 month ago
So by what I've said would you say I'm an empath? I have always been sensitive, but my getting hurt so many times has made me harder or should I say shielded. I try to shield myself from contacts...I guess is what I mean. Harsh words from others and cursing just shuts me off. I try to stay away from stuff like that. Can't look at gruesome or action movies. Are you this way?
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posted by bamasmom
about 1 month ago
Sorry not to get back to you till now. I do not watch any "Blood & Guts" movies or shows. I used to be able to when my shields were up full. A few years back I finally started relaxing them and that was when I stopped. I am retired now and the day to day mixing with people does not take place any more. I can begin to let myself "Feel" again. I am still working toward closing my last few social connections except on a limited scale. I do not know what it will be like when I can totally relax. I have been closed down since I was 16 years old. I am 64 now. Time will tell how I do. Art
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posted by ArthurCook
about 1 month ago
Judging from what you have shared, you might well be an empath. I've invited a few HSP friends of mine to join this group. There are experienced empaths among them, and I hope they come in. I am slightly empathic, but it's not as strong in me as it seems to be in you, and I hesitate to advise you because of that. Being Highly Sensitive does not necessarily mean one is an empath. I do know it's important for empaths, and HSPs in general to know their boundries and to give the self permission to retreat when necessary. I hope you can do that. A supportive community also helps, so you are in the right place!
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posted by Shari225
about 1 month ago
HSP may take many forms. My only strong point is Empathic. Much still lies buried under years of Shield Building! Others do the same so they can go on with Life! Art
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posted by ArthurCook
about 1 month ago
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