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Men in their 40's are looking for women in their 60's?

To me age plays a part only because the larger the gap in age, then the two folks can be at totally different stages in their lives. I keep a ten-year limit rule, either direction. I find someone in their 40s is starting to peak in their careers, still have children to raise, while someone in their 60s may be retired and more settled. I am over 10 years from retirement and just can't participate in a retired lifestyle now. I also am not interested in dating someone old enough to be my father or young enough to be my son.

It is a crazy mixed up world these days when it comes to dating, I agree. But, I think age has a lot of variables to it. A man may be looking for a woman in her 40's but if he finds one in her 60's that he feels "comfortable" and compatible with I think he would take her over the 40 year old. Age may be a pre-requisite in a person's mind but reality has a way of setting in and redefining the ideal.

I date the man not the age. When I go out on a date it is for fun, not for committment. If a relationship develops that is all well and good. If it doesn't then I had a great time, a great meal and possible made a great friend. Don't turn down the chance for happiness just because of a few years.

Of course, lately I seem to be dating a lot of men in their late 30s and earlier 40s than men close to my own age who want to date my daugter (24).She and I have a good laugh about that. A few months ago we turned up at the same place on a date. She was with someone that was 49 and I was with a man who was 33. Both men were very nice, but Jaime and I both knew we were out with our dates for interesting conversation and fun. Her date was a doctor and my date owned his own landscape company,

crap, I give up.........if he comes, he comes.......not looking........have better things to do.

I'm with you, joan! Too much work hunting.
I do agree that older guys are looking for younger women, but, as my son pointed out to me with a wry smile......I have a picture of a much younger man as wallpaper on my computer, so I have no room to talk.
But the difference is.....I wouldn't date him. I'm enjoying the view, but that's where it ends.
I find the men in my age group are, by and large, too "old" for me. They are set in their ways, content with the routine they have made for themselves, uninterested in investing the time and trouble to make new friends, go new places, and do new things. They are firmly entrenched in their comfort zone, and that is where they chose to stay. A woman would only complicate their life. My best friend's ex and I are good friends, and he has told me he would rather break a leg than enter into a relationship with a woman. He is happy at his dog track and watching his old movies. He cooks, and keeps his little trailer clean enough for his liking, and that's enough for him. I think he is a perfect example of the older men I've run into. What do they need a woman for? They have microwaves, washing machines, and hdtvs....what do they need a woman for? So, I would not rule out keeping company with a somewhat younger fella.....but I would set a limit. He'd have to be no younger than 50. But honestly......I doubt I'll find anyone who could keep up with me. My last husband was 7 years younger than me, and he turned out to be an old fuddy-duddy. All he wanted to do was play his computer games and nap on the couch. So, I reckon I'll probably stay singular, since the 50-somethings are looking for 30-somethings. Ahh, life! It's a crazy, mixed-up world, isn't it?

lol age is a number - i dont really look for a younger man too much work and i dont want to "mother" someone.... a man in his 60's that would be fine... my husband was 11 years older then me. Any older then that and I would have to meet the person etc I dont want a sugar daddy or someone thats looking for a nurse...

Is it only women who reply to these questions???

What do you think about this subject, Toddke?

I like to keep it within 5 years of my own age. Except for my Ex. Sure missed the boat their.