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well I haven't wrote in a long time. During this time I backslid and let my daughter move back into my house. It was supposed to be for a short time until the husband could find a job (LOL) and get the water turned on in the mobile home that was given to them. I was okay with this at first although I find I need more quiet time than I used to. The rules were that the hubby would not be here on a regular basis. I know that is not the way their marriage is supposed to go but then nothing in that marriage has ever been "normal".When he got the house ready utilities on etc she was supposed to join him. Well weeks turned into months with him at my house to eat and hang out every night. I could see no visibgle sign of his trying to get a job or do anything for that matter. She fell back into her old habits of just letting herself go not tending to her toddler properly and just doing what she pleased while I tryed to keep so kind of order in the house. She would cook meals a few nights a week but then I got all the messes to clean up. I'm still working on a regular basis and coming home to a grand child that delights in biting screaming throwing things and is not often asked to pick up his toys. I couldn't lay down my reading glasses or sit down a glass of soda without disaster of the grandchild kind. There was no way to keep a decent house and absolutely no help. Then it came to me what our fellow moms right here in the group had reassured me. Here I was again miserable in my own house. I gave her a date to move back in with her little hubby IN THEIR HOUSE not mine! and I stood behind it. I got the but he hasn't got things ready well no he was too busy hanging in here at my house! I stood my ground and she moved the day I told her not without protest but she did. Now I think we are both happier I know I am. When I went to clean her room after she moved out there was glasses of soda with mold on them. I hope I don't forget how tjis always ends soon. I owe it to her to let her learn what real life is all about and I owe it to me to have a little peace and quiet. I won't stand by and see him physically abuse her, he had better not! but I won't continue to be abused and used for their head games either. I'm still learning.