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If you go On Line you will find a lot of info on HSP. It took 60 years for me to find out about it. Art

Thank you Arthur. I have read quite a bit on the subject and have attempted to pass on to others the possibility that they may also be HSPs and never have known. A lot of people who are HSPs have probably always been told they were too sensitive or thin skinned etc, as if it were a fault, thus making the person feel inadequate and not quite measuring up.

The world needs HSPs and I don't want to even think about how much worse the world would be without them. We could do with more of them. That's how valuable they are.

It took me a good long while to find out about being a Highly Sensitive Person too.

I read your profile and like the way you think. I have been trying to eliminate as much negativity from my life as possible. I think we can make a difference to the way we are affected by the things we can't control if we can manage to control how we think about them.

Thanks for replying to me.

I just read an article today that said in it, "People do not make us Happy or make us Sad! We Do!" It has to do with our attitude in how we take things in Life. I have the same reaction to every thing! "It could have been worst!" I find that puts things in perspective! Art

Hi Art,
I have learned that we become stressed by things that affect us when we have no control over them so I have often advised people within my capacity on another site that if they cannot control an event or situation they can reduce their stress by trying to control the way they think about it or view it.

Allowing something not to affect us by walking away from it is as positive a reaction as any other and for us sensitive souls, is probably the best choice of all. So many people view walking away as a weakness I think.

Feeling the need to conform to what everyone else is doing puts a great strain on HSPs, especially before they realise they are HSPs.

Owly x

Years ago ........way before I knew anything about sensitives.....before I was married, but dating this man, he subjected me to a side of life I had never known. I was so upset, I threw up. Has this ever happened to you?

I can't remember ever throwing up through being a HSP. I tend to distance myself or hide away. I'm so aware of the effect of the smallest amount of negativity that I don't go further along those paths.

If I am around someone who I feel is a negative person then I won't be around them for long. I have known negative people make other people sick though. Not physically sick but drained so much that they become ill.

We have to be so careful with what we subject ourselves to and also balance things out to keep ourselves feeling ok.

I never got "Sick", but, I did use to let "Friends" put me into depression. When they found out that I do not fight back, they took advantage of this to unload on me where they could not do so to others. I spent way too much time wondering what I did to make them mad at me. I have this problem with Family too. I have learned not to accept their Negative Vibes and just walk away. Avoiding situations where this might happen though, will have you spending much of the time alone. I learned to grow a Thick Skin. Art

Hello Art,
I have found that when someone is down, depressed or going through a bad time some people will use the fact that they are 'weakened' to have a go at them and pile other stuff onto them. This could be the chance for them to offload their own grievances but it doesn't actually make a difference to the situation it just makes the depressed or HS person feel a lot worse and less able to cope.

I've seen and heard about this kind of thing being done many times. I suspect it is highlighting faults within the perpetrator rather than any actual weakness in the person they have targeted. If anything they are showing their own weaknesses.

HSP isn't a weakness as we know and we are the ones the others come to when they find themselves knocked down by life's events.

It's great that you have learned to walk away. I suspect we have to do a lot of work on ourselves to find ways of dealing with this kind of thing.

I agree that the problem is there's. They do not have the "Balls" to go after the one causing their problem. So they go after us! We seem easy prey who will not bite back. Art

Yes I agree. What they don't seem to appreciate is that we aren't fools and do remember things, we also understand what they are trying to do.

They underestimate the depth of that understanding in a HSP.

We could write them off simply for the vibes they give off, long before they actually do anything. Trouble is others would then judge us for doing that and wouldn't appreciate why.