You are not alone. There are many grandparents that are caught up in this estrangement trap. It is heart breaking for you and leaves a void in the lives of your grandchildren as well. I'm not a professional, just another grand, but I can suggest three wonderful women that may be able to help you: 1. Dear GRAND at GRAND Magazine (grand@grandmagazine.com) is Dr. Lillian Carson, psychologist specializing in family therapy. She is the author of The Essential Grandparent. I know that she will have some good advice for you. 2. Another good source of help may be Susan Hoffman, author of GRAND Wishes. Susan can be reached at bikc209@gmail.com. She is a driving force for grandparent rights.#3 is Brigitte Castellano, co founder of the National Committee of Grandparents for Children's Rights. You can reach her at.bcastellano@grandparentsforchildren. org. I'd also like to invite others members of our group to offer their input. Don't give up!
My story isn't quite the same, but our son has a son (6weeks old) and the mother married a different man. She wants sole custudy..not going to happen.. She wants to "work it out" without the court. But she won't even let the little guy come to our house (6) miles away. We get to see him every other day, at her place for 2 hours. That will change once we are in court. Sad to have to do it, but fathers do have rights too. She is the one who broke it off and expects him to walk away completely. I didn't raise my children to walk away from problems big or small. I think it is great that he wants this baby in his life and to be a big part of it, not just the occasional dad.
Yes it will take some adjusting, but he is more than willing, and we are here to help. What a lucky little boy, he will have all these people to love and care for and about him.
posted by Bam57
2 months ago
No, I haven't but can tell you I'd put up one big fight. I did find out from an attorney, that grandparents really have no rights. Blew me out of the water. My son is battling in court too. His x still doesn't think she get's enough money. Third trip in less than a yr. We still get her every other weekend. Nothing she can do to stop that. My son has bent over backwards with this woman, and she'll not budge. I told them both they had better start thinking about the child, not their selfish needs. Baby comes first!
My sister and her daughter did not see eye to eye (get along) but her daughter didn't think it was right to keep her one and only grandson from seeing grandma. So, they worked things out. Thank God!
You are not alone when it comes to our children having issues with their parents and when they become adults . They now think that they can punish you by not allowing you to have a relationship with your grandchildren. I had that problem with my oldest daughter, and I just let her and her family alone, once I did that after a while she stopped being so foolish and we set down and talked. Things are better now. I wish you luck with your son,but don't beg him to talk to you that gives him power.
