Hi there. I often feel that I'm looking for "something else" too, but not sure what that is. On the days I feel somewhat lost, I remind myself of all I have been blessed with and try to get involved in an activity that I enjoy. My 2 adult kids have their own lives so we don't spend as much time together as I'd like, but I know they are there for me. I have a wonderful group of very close friends, without whom I would be truly lost. I finally tried dating and was with a man for several months, until his true personality emerged and that was the end for me. I actually don't feel the need to be in a dating relationship, but that may change.
I really wish I knew what the "something else" is.
Hey ladies. It is so hard to rebuild after losing the life we have known. Particularly, women who are middle aged or older often have not had much chance to find their voice nor have they had too much experience nurturing and taking care of themselves as they have been taking care of others for so long.
First step in moving forward is figuring out what makes you happy? Really, what do you love to do?
annie
I don't feel the need to be dating either. I like my own company and have friends and relatives I can see when I want a change.
What I think I need is a creative outlet and I'm working on that. I grew up drawing and painting but have got away from that for several years. I guess I just need a little push. Now my brother has asked for a portrait.
posted by frog40
over 2 years ago
Hi, That's exactly what I did Frog. My husband passed away and I had no idea what it was I was going to do with myself. How would I know I took care of everyone else for 30 years. So a friend got me to join her painting group, I learned to paint and made 15 new friends in the process. And I like being alone, I like the quiet, the freedom. I've gone to the library to a book group a few times. Easy, no pressure casual meetings. I'm slowing getting my act together, it'll take some time. Be gentle with yourself.
