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Hello From Columbia SC

Hello Ladies and Gents,
I'm John. I'm 56 years old. I don't know if I belong in this group.

I was searching the groups list and found this one by coincidence. I was pleasantly surprised to see a few posts that moved my soul. I started to read about: "A Heart That Loves Is Always Young". The posting stirred my emotions. I had someone that my heart truly loved. Addison's Disease took her from me in June of 1999.

Since then, after grieving, I've been searching for a woman who is an independent spirit. A woman who can hold her own, yet feel safe and secure with a nice gentleman like me. I've been to almost ALL of the dating sites and haven't found what I'm searching for. I'm not Adonis, nor am I Shrek. I'm a good looking guy who tries to be at his level best.

I wish for a friendship with a woman that can carry on an intelligent conversation, a traveling partner, and someone to hug and be hugged by.
I miss being with a woman who is considerate of others, faithful, honest, kind and trustworthy.

I have all this love to give and no one to give it to. It hurts!!! I wish for this the most because life is too short to be alone.
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Hello John, I too, lost the love of my life 3.5 years ago. I'm 72 years young and in excellent health both physically, and mentally. I am retired from the field of education. I truly hope you can find someone near your age to share all the love you have to offer someone who's needs will at least be equal to yours.
I'm writing you because I want to encourage you to hang in there. At my age I have found that there are no eligible gents in my age bracket, that are as physically fit as I am and very few that I have met, that can carry on an intelligient conversation; I know there must be someone out there for me, I just have not found "him" yet. I know that physically fit and intelligient men exist but I have not had the pleasure of meeting any. And to me there is nothing worse than living alone. I have never smoked or consumed lots of alcohol and have taken care of myself. My husband died from cancer. We dated for over 2 years before we were married. We were bonded together from a power greater than our own. I miss him and long for the day when I meet someone that I can give all my love to and be loved by him. God Bless you is my prayer.

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Sometimes I feel like a little lost kitty cat. .
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posted by Mollie1107
4 months ago
Mollie,
I'm truly appreciative of your response. I wish to thank you. I truly hope that both of us find what we are searching for.

John
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posted by NorthSouth1953
4 months ago
Hi Molly and John,
I read John'see response to my post and was touched. Molly, u 2 have touched my soul. I want to know how sooo many souls prefer the single life over one shared. Do rockets have to explode etc as when we were in our 20's...or can't something "else" take the place of aniamalistic sex etc. Why can't just newly shared experiences, morals, likes or dislikes, companionship etc etc etc... be enough at our age. Afterall, we are not looking to raise a family and can settle for "co-captain"...or the bench warmer.....just as long as there is an "understanding of sorts. "

What's wrong with a best friend (just shy of a soulmate) in the twilight years? And to me the perspective of the opposite sex is soooo much more fun and interesting than going out with a "Sally" just to kill time.

Is this called marriage of convenience????Dunno??
A soulmate would be the epitome of wonderful..but the likelyhood????
Just some thoughts of mine...Prone to change my mind .
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posted by Sonjia
4 months ago
Sonjia, although it has been 16 days since your post, I thoroughly agree with you 100%. It would be the grandest thing for me if I could find a "soulmate". Someone to share the rest of my life with. Forget the sex at my age. Now I still enjoy being hugged and kissed. I suppose my hromones have told my body that sex is over for me. And if the truth were known I'm not the only one. Men seem to have a need for sex until the day they die, but I feel that MOST women don't. I have met a very nice gentleman that I have gone to dinner with 2 times. He wants to have sex. He takes some sex enhancement drug. However, I told him that I do not feel the need to have sex. He has been gone all summer to visit his children in other states. He wrote me last week and ask me if I had gone to the doctor to ask for hormones. I wrote back and told him no, and that if sex is all he needs me for to find someone else. I want a "companion", "soulmate", and should sex become inevitable then I'm all for it, but good grief, we are both in our early 70's. We are not teen agers.
I really would like to have a "housemate/soulmate/companion,". Someone to watch a movie with, go out to eat, have a cup of coffee with, share an intelligient conversation with, and just be the closest of friends, but I guess it "ain't" gonna happen.
Blessings to each of you and thanks again Sonjia and Johnsee.....
I drop in now and then. I'm trying to write my life story as I grew up on a farm in the dark ages. lol. 40-50's. It's my attempt to preserve a bit of history.
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posted by Mollie1107
4 months ago
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