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She Lost Innocence

As a little girl of eight years her mother and father divorced. It was a heartbreak for her to endure and her father didn't pay much attention to her and her mother worked many hours as an accountant. Her mom met a man who she married when this little girl was almost 12 years old. Shortly after, her stepfather began to sexually abuse her. He abused her for 4 years and the abuse became more and more agressive. He told her if she told he would kill her parents and grandparents and showed her a gun. So to protect her loved ones she endured the abuse. Finally when she was 16 she was telling a girl at school what was happening to her. The classmate encouraged her to go to the school nurse and report it. This she did and the nurse called the police. The police then called the girls' mother at work. Her mother came to the school and didn't hesitated a minute in believing her daughter. Her mother went home and got clothes for herself and her daughter and took them to safety. Then the mother changed the locks on her home so the stepfather could not enter the home again.
About 5 months later the police had enough evidence against the stepfather to arrest him He was offered a plea bargain to plead guilty, but he refused, thinking that the young girl would not be strong enough to face him in court.
It was almost a year before the case went to court and the girl was older and stronger and was able to testify against this man. He was found guilty on 13 counts of child abuse and endangerment and the judge gave him 127 years in prison with no parole possible. Today that young lady is almost 23 and has been able to put this behind her (pretty much) and is a fine young lady. I am so proud of her, because she is my grand daughter.
patcelaw's profile
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What a story of courage and strength! So many times a parent does not want to believe what a child tells them- kudos to all involved.

This is a very inspirational story for all who have been touched by this horrific crime.

Sherri
SherriAnne's profile

over 2 years ago
Tell her to never let her past rule her present or future! She should never settle for second best. For she is worthy of the best in life! To stand tall and chin up! God bless her and her grandmother.
Suthnbelle807's profile

over 2 years ago
She is a strong young lady like her grnadma and has seen my example overcoming a deep hurt, so she will not let the hurt of the past rule her.

Boom this someone.
patcelaw's profile

over 2 years ago
Patclaw....This was very touching. I will never understand what drives a man to do this to a child. My second wife was abused by her father as a child...even had a child by one of her brothers. This was when she was 12 years old. Her child was mentally retarded. But what it did to my wife was so damaging. It did interfere with our marriage...because she didn't know how to treat a man. She told me she forgave her father...but she never forgot. She ended up in his later years taking care of him. I just don't know if I could have done that.
I wrote something about an abused child..I do hope u get a chance to read it. I'll try to post it sometime tomorrow. God bless you my wonderful friend and your grand daughter for having the courage to tell others about this. Durl
Princeofdreams's profile

over 2 years ago
Scum like that "man" are so damaging. I'm glad things are better now.

over 2 years ago
My first reaction was to react with, "How absolutely fantastic a story this is!!" But then I was afraid that if I started my reaction with that sentence, it could be misunderstood.

You read so many of this sort of story that takes a wrong turn when it comes to the first attempts at telling the adults who are supposed to be the ones doing the protecting. I was afraid this story was going to take that turn also.

I was thrilled when your daughter's reaction read like an avenging angel, not questioning your granddaughter. Too often you read of it going the other way first. I think that it's wonderful that your daughter knew who to believe.
Rhiannnonn's profile

over 2 years ago
I have often thought about these things, it makes me sick. Yet, the courage and bravery that these girls show and the grace that they hold themselves is truly wonderful. I have no patience with this crime. I have no forgiveness for the sexual nature of these men. To rob a child of their innocence is not forgivable.
I can only hope they burn in Hell for an eternity.
I am glad your Granddaughter has overcome, so many don't. Thank you for sharing such a painful experience and bringing the dark to light, I am sure it will help someone else going through this.
Love and Peace.
ladyhawk8141's profile

over 2 years ago
If he is ever paroled, have him com and see me.
I'd like to have a talk with him.
A very short talk!
CJ
ChateauJoinsard's profile

over 2 years ago
Another example of the evil of this world. This is a terrible story and one that many would try to hide, but it needs to be shouted from the mountain tops. Patce, both your daughter and your grand-daughter need your strength as this kind of abuse has deep roots and the damage of this sick kind of betrayal can re-occur. Be there for them and love them.
JaneCrichton's profile

over 2 years ago
Patclaw, What a sad, but uplifting story and how brave of you both for sharing. This beautiful strong young woman can help so many other young women by sharing his story and her strength. My daughter works for ALLSTATE Insurance in the endowment area that specializes in helping abused women. I am not sure if they do anything with those abused as children or just adult women, but I know that Mary Kay Cosmetics and other organizations also deal with this area. These organizations are always looking for the brave women who can be example to others, to show them that there is indeed a way out of said abuse. Your granddaughter sounds like the perfect person to be a spokesperson who such a group. Perhaps her counselor or whoever helped her dig her way out from her abuse would know of such a program.

God bless you both.
dddanse's profile

over 2 years ago
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