Martiln, be yourself mean not to show what you are not (?) be sincere when you are dating, tell the truth, be honest. At least, this is my opinion...
To me I think to be yourself is not to show a false side of your personality, something you truly are not. I am a quiet and shy person sometimes and I will not pretend I am not, just to please my date. If someone does not like me the way I am then I am not meant to be with that person.
Marti I agree with you..I have many selves and they are all me even the one who puts on aires to the one who is shy and passive. Since I have been so alone the past few years I have even become reclusive in a way. But inside I was to shout and be happy but happy has been here for awhile..I don't even think I would know who shelf is if I bumped into her..LOL I have been so alone I wonder what I did to offend everyone or to make them not like me but nothing on this end I am aware of..LOL We change our personalities to meet with the public and depending on which public we are meeting with.. I think if we didn't and someone was shy all the time they would never do anything or even leave their home. Shelf, who are you? LOL Good post, no real answer but good anyway..Have a great 4th..to all
The kind of shyness I am is that I am not very outspoken or the aggressive type. I am always going places and just love being around people. This is the way I am and I am just being myself.
A person who is comfortable in enough in their own skin and true to their values is one who is being himself. If you are an introvert you don't pretend to be an extrovert. If you are an extrovert, you will always be an extrovert, but that doesn't mean you still aren't cautious in the dating scene.
I agree Marti.....I have of different "selves". To me when I see this on a dating site.....it just means....don't try to make yourself something that you aren't. Don't paint a picture that isn't you. It would be impossibe to put all the things in a sites that cover all of you....I just don't think its good to put things there that are not the truth.
I think this "Be Yourself" stuff is just another myth. There is no such thing as being yourself. As humans we are all a work in motion and different circumstances require our different "selves" to perform in different ways. And society dictates that we use restraint in our interactions with other people so how in the world is this "be yourself" stuff even possible? Prisons are full of folks who were just being themselves whether it was their learned "self" or genetic "self". To me "being yourself" means expressing those talents and abilities that are inately ours for the good of others. We all have something good within us that we can express so that's the "self" that should be shown. But, we also have a "dark self" as well and that is the one that needs to be kept under wraps.
I don't know who else I would be?
I have only one type of personality (TO BE MYSELF WITH) and truthfully I can only be one kind of person - unless I fake it, and that is pretty hard for me to do.
I tried being someone I wasn't for many years. I truly found out that I'm better off being true to myself. A lot of men and women tell me that I have a heart of gold. I enjoy being the kind and considerate one, the person that can be relied on. This is the me I enjoy. I may not win any popularity contests but I truly don't care. I like being me.
