I forgot that I did contact (thru Classmates) another guy I dated in H.S. He was a Sr. & I was a Soph. (This may be TMI - but he's the one that managed to get my virginity.) I just asked him where he lives & how his life has been, family, etc. He sent me a message back telling me where he lives, married & has like 7 kids. YIKES!! That was the end of that - satisfied my curiosity. (I had absolutley no interest in starting anything up with him even if he was available - was just curious.)
I have also tried a couple of times to locate a guy that I dated in college. I know where he went to H.S. & have searched that school on classmates, but no luck.
My biggest curiosity was with my first love that I found thru his sister.
P.S. william...I've never paid that kind of money for classmates.com. I just renewed for 1/2 price - $19.95 for a year. You might try going on there & acting like you're going to join & if it's more than you want to pay then click cancel - it will likely then come back & offer you some "special" deal. I don't think I've ever seen it more than $39.95 for a year - not per month.
I would just like to meet my old college girlfriend just to have some closure,, my friends at the time were telling me she was very shallow and just wanted me to go out and party with ( I had a car and she didn't ) After us being together for 3 yrs (1978-1981 in college. Then she moved from NY to Fla. after graduation and disappeared to me,, I sent some letters ( this was before PC's) and called her a few times and left messages ,,but no word from her . After a few months I just let it go,, but I always wonder what happened.. In college we were joined at the hip and the last time we saw each other , we parted with her telling me she would call me when she got to Fla,, then nothing. Last I heard in 2002 she was back in NY. She's about 52 now and I just like to know what happened,, Bottom line is I guess she is like my friends said and kind of shallow and didn't have the integrity to tell me her intentions and the truth.. I wonder if she's still like that..
PS,, TooYoung2BeOld- thanx for the info ,,but it's not THAT important to me,, I've just gone to my old HS and college web sites and found ppl for free,, and Facebook is a good avenue to follow also, just EV-eryone is on there , dahling :)
Yes william - after I hit the post button I realized I'd forgotten to mention facebook. I've reconnected with a lot of former schoolmates. For anyone wishing to find people that is a great way to do it. And it is free!
I have been searching for my "first love". I have traced her to a point in time that is fairly recent. I am unaware of her current status but I'm drawing close with hopes that I will succeed in the near future.
Don't search too much..... if it happens, it happens.Sometimes we expect to find the same young , good looking , romantic person who just slipped out of our hands; forgetting the many many years of change in physical features, lifestyle, personality, responsibilities, commitments etc. that have taken place. When the reconnection happens, we try to pick up where we left off and that is where the issues set in.........
I don't know wakeup...I don't have any regrets at all with all the "reconnects" that I've made. They each served a purpose - the first two for my self-esteem & self-worth & the last for a tiny bit of closure that was undone.
I think at our age we're all wise enough to go into it with our eyes wide open, prepared to possibly see a very different person. My first love was a major hunk when we were in H.S. He's now somewhat overweight, bald & not any where near a hunk. But there was still some magic there for both of us - it just wasn't meant to be permanent.
Good luck in your search ggravess. I think since you've come this far, you should just go for it. Then at least you won't keep wondering what ever became of her. One thing I have found though in my reconnections is that the flaws or outstanding quality about the person 30 years ago remains the same today. My first love was tremendously arrogant when he was 16. He may have lost some of his good looks over time, but that arrogance is still there going strong. Ditto for my best girlfriend in h.s. She was always very outspoken back when we were friends and always had kind of a chip on her shoulder. When I found her 30 yrs. later, she was knockout gorgeous, never married, no kids--and still as outspoken as ever. And still with that chip on her shoulder. I think this sort of contradicts what wakeupcall wrote above, but it is my experience with it anyway.
2Young: I love hearing your stories! You sound like a curious, fun-loving sort. I wish we lived closer and maybe could get together from time to time.
I have to go now for my Friday afternoon grandma duty. I think this afternoon I'm taking my 5 grandkids up to the swimming pool here in my condo complex. As this is more of a retirement community (except me who is still plugging along, working every day), the pool is kept up well and is very nice and clean--and usually EMPTY so we end up having the pools to ourself :)
I "found" my high school sweetheart through Classmates.com. We hadn't had any communication for 27 years. That was in 2000, and we have been together having our ups and down, in one way or another since!!!!
And also, I forgot to say above that I know personally of 2 women (one who lives in my community, one who is a receptionist at my OB/GYN's office) who reconnected with their first loves but married them this time around....and both couples are just INSANELY happy!!! I think it is so romantic! Yes I am a hopeless romantic.................
I hear you all clearly . I still feel it makes some sense to search but dont "oversearch".......... As 2Young says , each search/reconnection serves a good purpose in her life. We all need these experiences at different stages of our lives. I am waiting to see what my reconnection brings me !!! Maggie please give us an update when you find.................
