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Someone said that Classmates.com was a good place to start - I have gotten 2 calls from old boyfriends recently, one was on the rebound and one was drunk! lol I don't have anyone from my past that I have the slightest feelings left for, although I am curious about how a few wound up!

maggie...as I've mentioned in a post recently the guy that was my first "real" date, first "real" kiss contacted me thru classmates.com. We had dated when we were freshmen in h.s. & although it sounds stupid - he was very much in love with me. I liked him a lot but never entertained the "in love" aspect. I had been divorced just a few weeks & he had been widowed just a month longer when he sent me an email. He lived in Oregon & came out here for a visit. Before the weekend was over he was talking about going home to early retire from his long-time job (2 yrs. from being vested) & move here (away from his Mom, children & grandchildren.) It freaked me out & I sent him an email when he got back home telling him he needed to think VERY seriously about what he was thinking about & to please not move out here because of me, because I wasn't ready for any kind of relationship. (And this after 3 days together & us not even kissing, much less anything else!) So, he didn't & he married just a few months later. So he obviously was at a point of desperation & I wasn't.) At a different time - much later - who knows?

I also reconnected with my high school sweetheart - real first love - a few months after my divorce. He doesn't live near here, so it was a long distance thing for about 18 months. I really thought that this time, something was going to develop. But finally realized that he was still a commitment phobic - just like when we were in h.s. - and had to make a decision. I could stay in the status quo - probably forever - or move on with my life. I chose to move on. But I'll never regret the time with him. He was put into my path at that time for a special reason - to restore my self-confidence. (By the way, his sister & I were best friends in h.s. so when I found her - through lots of investigative work & phone calls, then went to visit her is how he & I connected.)

There are both positives and negatives in this adventure. I have thought about it and have even done some cursory investigation, but I haven't done much beyond that. They might be married...or they may not remember us as fondly as we remember them. But, I'd be lying if I said I wasn't curious.

A girl friend that I've been friends with since 3rd grade (can you imagine that!) and I decided to register on Classmates several years ago. One day I got an email from my first "love" in high school....he was an upper classman and we had dated. He paid to get my email! He is married and when I go home, which isn't very often, we have met for lunch or coffee. I've met his wife. We continue to email as friends, which has been nice since my girl friend had been the only other person from "home" that I've kept in touch with. I moved half way across the country from my hometown and my girl friend moved all the way across the country. Any thing romantic? Not at all....just old friends.
BJ

I have gotten in contact with 2 former loves, and have kept in touch occasionally...both are happily married and I would do nothing to jeopardize that in any way. I do sometimes wonder 'what if', especially with my first love; he was so great to me and I was in too much of a hurry to let him go, I realized too late. Such is life~

A year after my husband died, I called the old homestead of a past love and left my name and number with his father. The fellow called me almost right away and we met for dinner. He was divorced, available and in short order we got close again. Then it came to me: the same things that bothered me about him 30 years ago, still do. We have a strong attraction but different values. My conclusion was things really do not change that much as we get older, and I was not going to get what I wanted from him the second time around anymore than I did the first time. We parted friends.

I tried searching for a woman I was dating in college and came up with a list of 100 names the same as hers,, I tried Classmates.com, but all they tell you is that person is alive in the western hemisphere ,,if you want to know anymore it's going to cost $29.95 a month.. it's the same with Pipl, Google and Zabasearch,, they say that they free ,, but free meaning that they tell you the person is alive,, if you want to know anymore it's going to cost

best to leave the past in da past !! lol =:o)

OKAY, now for my story. I've always enjoyed finding out how old friends (male and female) ended up--what they're doing now, kids, grandkids, what they look like now after so many years have passed. I moved away during my later HS years, and finding old friends was always just something I thought would be cool to do, not necessarily thinking or wanting to rekindle anything but just seeing how their lives had turned out. Anyway after my little brother died suddenly at the age of 31 back in 2000 (suicide), it made me think about all of life's uncertainties, and one of the things I did was decide to get the answers I had been looking for and look up some old friends just for the heck of it. Found my best friend from high school and another "best" friend from the jr. high years as well as a college friend. Was so cool to find them, meet up with them again, and we remain in touch to this day. Those were all girls so no problem with the actual "meeting up" part. Also thought it would be "interesting" to see what ever became of my first love (age 14, the guy I mentioned in another post in the maroon Corvair). I did find him--he had been divorced twice, was as arrogant as he was when we were teenagers, still had those gorgeous blue eyes but otherwise really looked old and worn and beat. Well at least I found him and that satisfied my curiosity. Now the guy I went with in HS for 2-1/2 years, who I ended up being engaged to before I woke up and came to my senses back when I was 18--that was a search I should not have entered into. I found him through the Intellius website, e-mailed him, exchanged phone #'s, and went to see him, just once. He was married and his wife was insanely jealous and figured I must be up to something (NO), that I wanted her husband back (NO). Long story short, he too was very old-looking, I could see the lines of a hard life etched in his face, and unfortunately he decided HE wanted to rekindle things although I wanted nothing more than possibly a long distance friendship. However, over the next 6 months or so he would call and call and text and text and text some more. I told him he needed to concentrate on his marriage and that I was not what he needed, it wouldn't be like it was when we were teenagers, etc. He kept it up anyway, behind his wife's back, even with me ignoring his calls and texts. When she found out he was contacting me (I am guessing through a much higher phone bill than normal???), well.....she sent me a one-word text this year on Mother's day which said "bitch." I sent her a text back and asked her why she called me that, and she said it was because I was ruining her marriage. I told her I was not interested in her husband. She told me he had told her that he and I would have made beautiful babies together. Yikes! I cut off all contact from both of them, period. Looking back, he was one I should not have looked for. Isn't there an old saying that curiousity is what killed the cat?? :) I would just say at this point that the search is kinda fun but there is no guarantee the person on the other end will react the way you envision they will. I am glad I did the searches but I don't know if I would do it again, knowing what I know now. My ex who I had been engaged to, his reaction totally freaked me out!!!

yes, with a reaction like that, it may have been better to leave the past in the past! lol There are fellas I dated that I would like to "run into" just one more time - like in a grocery store or something. But not meet and have lunch or coffee with. That gives some guys too much of an idea that they could actually hook up with you. Some men (and women) have a shallow mind when it comes to old flames. Especially those that are or were in a bad relationship, or are pining for the "old days".