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I've changed because of hurting and because I was excited. But, I think there is a fourth reason. Change because you have no choice. Had to change my job assignment several years ago because they eliminated the division I was working in and I was re-assigned to a division I had never been interested in.

I have to agree with Crowlady, she nailed it pretty good as far as I feel. My changes usually come from just being fed up with a situation and being hurt.

For me, it was like wolftracker says--change happened because I felt I had no other choice. When I left my marriage, yes I was hurt, yes I was scared, no I was NOT excited :), but I truly felt I had no choice. I had come to the very end of my short rope, and I knew if I didn't get out of there, NOW, really I felt so desperate that I contemplated killing myself. And I remember very clearly feeling so pinned in a corner, like I was drowning almost--and I remember thinking if I were going to stay alive, I had to get out of there and NOW. Otherwise I was prepared to end my life. Sounds drastic I know, but that is how desperate I felt. And I remember even thinking at the time that if Plan A didn't work out (leaving the marriage), well Plan B was always there in reserve (exiting the world). So wolftracker, I agree with you. If you have no choice, then you have no choice. Sucks but that's the way it is/was, for me anyway.

My last change was forced upon me by a SUV though it has changed me little mentally it has temporary altered my physically quite a bit.

Is disillusionment considered pain? I thought I married 'Prince Charming' who turned out to have an uncontrollable temper which he targeted at me. I soon knew that if I didn't want to end up in the hospital, I had to leave.

Sorry to hear that Rewtoo. Hope you're on the mend and feeling better.

I've made changes in my life for a lot of reasons. The pain of an untenable situation has been a major motivatior for change in my life more than once, and I've been fed up with some situations and made changes because of it (early jobs), and because I've had no choice. But I've also made changes because I've been excited about something (starting a business) and I've made changes because of a passion...no, not a romantic passion. I left a very lucrative postion to follow my passion to write...and make no money...until I sold something. But in doing that, as it turns out, my writing has helped me get through some of the most painful times in my life.

What's the old addage...the only thing that's certain in life is change.

OOPS! I just noticed this is an old message. Why it popped up on the front page, I don't know. I just saw the last two answers and thought it was current. ??

like a lot of the others on here, the first two.

For me, it was hurt enough and stubborn.

I changed finally after over 30 yrs. It took alot of disappointment, broken hearts, being taken advantage of, lies................