I honestly don't expect ... I just cherish it if it comes...
Dang it! my shorts just slipped down. Now that's nothing if I'm at home,but I'm at the Library and it's kinda frowned on here. Hey Librarian! I could use a hand over here please.
Have you ever had a day when you just wanted to be loved ,but there was no-one ......Oh, thankyou Honey. What? I didn't mean to call ...
Have you ever wanted just to be loved, but had to spend the night in jail and...I gotta go,Bubba wants to use this foraslclc %#.,..^*7e
If we don't tell others what they can expect of us, they will make up their own expectations.and we will wonder why they are disappointed...
I would like it ALL....That being said...What is ALL? Respect....if I don;t respect them, I will not even be with them, kindness, the same. Laughter...a must....I want to laugh with them, which means we will be able to communicate....which SHOULD mean....we can tell each other what we expect....Compromise...sure...if he's a hunter or fisherman and I am not...Go....if I am an art enthusiast and he is not, let me go....I know where he is....I'll make my way back there....
I would like financial independence...Heck, I may even buy him a Birthday gift, but my choice....and his if he so chooses.....
Committment....yes....does not have to have a license to be committed...my dog is committed...but then, I did purchase her, so that probably doesn't count...
Acceptance.....of my family and me his....after all,... we will have prior lives...
Being a priority, not a option....is required....
I probably am too demanding.........better just hang in here with my dog...because,
until I find an S/O who is as happy to see me as she is......that's my goal...someone who is as happy to see me as my dog is...
The only thing I expect from love is: that's is mutual. As a man I expect from myself, to be considerate, honest, faithful, kind, loyal and sensitive to her needs. From the lady ... I only expect the same.
Hey frenchy,I not only hi-jacked the durned thang,but I kilt it!
lol Sassy! I agree....the dog wins for now....hahahaha
Love does not come easily to me, I have spent too many years with my heart safely locked away stupidly thinking that it would keep me from getting hurt. Lucky for me I have been on a very long journey of growing as a person and and only recently I understood that unless I risk my heart for love with all it's uncertainties I will never know the joy of experiencing at least some moments of true happiness.
I also know now that each of us a worthy of love and a happy life we just have believe that it is not just something that happens to others and we can open ourselves to it if we choose to...
If I were lucky enough to find someone that I could love I would expect to be in for a great adventure of discovery, and I would expect that good or bad I would have someone to share the journey with.
I had been giving this topic of love and expectations a lot of thought over the past couple of years. I had been struggling to articulate exactly how I felt about love and expectations, and Frenchy asked us to take our time to think about it before responding, so I did. Then I read the CWG3 that was posted as a response and like Blithe, it spoke to me about how I have been viewing the possibilities of romantic love and expectations and more or less captured how I felt.
Like most folks, when I was young I think that my idea of romantic love came with certain expectations attached. If I fell in love and that person loved me, I expected that we would live together, get married, buy a house, have a family, etc., etc., etc. After a long term relationship ended and after the many years it has taken to put myself back together, that concept has changed for me.
I no longer want to make that connection between romantic love and expectations. I want the freedom to love deeply, wildly, gently, lightly. I want to be able to say it, announce it, and demonstrate it in all that I do and say and not be afraid. I don't want the love that I give to be associated with any expectation of a commitment. For me, that is a separate and distinct discussion and decision that we would make together. I just want to love and be loved and work out the details as we go.
I don’t want some preconceived ideas of what a loving relationship “should” look like, prevent us from developing a loving relationship that works for us. There are at least one requirement needed to allow something like this to work (there are probably more but this is the most important I think), honest and open communication about your needs and desires. Sound easy, but it isn’t. And those sands tend to shift and move around now and then. I don’t know if this makes any sense to anyone else. It does to me. Will it work, who knows the jury is still out, but I am the eternal optimist!
Thanks for sharing that CWG3, it really struck a note with me.
Well frenchy,I guess this post is not going to go down easily. There seems to be a lot of oh me and oh my to be let out yet. I'm going to have to just be patient I guess and wait to see what happens and who lasts the longest here.
I got my eye on BC 'cause she's got spunk. I like spunk. She's tough too. She could take care of me in my old age if she let me get there.
I don't know how romantic she is tho. She can box,so that makes up for that. I wonder if she has a car. Could you check on that for me? I don't want to scare her off.
you are better off waiting til it happens --if it happens it happens ---no expectations--it will happen if you are open to the possibility---our generation is much to focused on instant gratification---good things happen with time and patience. :)
