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love and expectations

well here's another post where i get to throw you guys in the deep end ..as blithe says i have a habit of doin sometimes .. well sort of .. you don't have to go if you don't wanna .. but i've been doin some thinkin lately about love and how it effects us a bit differently than it did when we were younger .. love and expectations .. when we were younger we may have had some expectations but we really didn't know what to really expect .. we never did that or been there before so how could we ?? but now .. now we know better .. and the big problem with love is once you fall into it you expect something .. if you're just friends with someone and it gets to the point of horizontal but you leave that love word out neither party can claim that you let them down because no real promises were made .. but once that love word gets into the mix everything changes .. because once you're in love you have expectations.. so let me ask you if you were to fall in love tomorrow what would your expectations be ?? don't rush to answer .. think it over cause if you do fall in love tomorrow and that person you're in love with don't meet your expectaions what do you do ?? i sometimes think that when you go for your marriage license you should have to fill out an essay on what your expectations are and so should your future spouse .. if they ain't even close .. they fail you and you can't get married unless you fix it somehow .. counciling or role playing .. whatever might work .. but if you're expectaions are too high they deem you unmarriable .. ( is that even a word )
anyway think this over and then answer .. shit have some fun with it .. i'm sure dodger will find some way to hijack the post anyway so just go with it .. but who knows what you might discover about yourself if you just take some time to really think about it ..
thefrenchinhaler's profile
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@Margie: I'm laughing (almost) about the respect-word. Before my first wedding, I wanted respect added to the vows. My fiancé fought against it. Rabidly. Yes, it's MY FAULT that I went through with that wedding!
BoxerChick's profile

5 months ago
OMG Boxer....thanks sooo much for posting that....that expresses my thoughts to a T....I have been trying to put these exact thoughts into words for a while now....seems this topic comes up a lot in different groups....something we all think about a lot, I think....this just tickles me that you have posted this....I love it.

May I borrow this to share in another group?
BlitheSpirit52's profile

5 months ago
That was pretty cool, Boxer. I liked that.
LkeeperDeb's profile

5 months ago
You are absolutely allowed to borrow it. The CWG means it came from the Conversations With God, Book 3. It was the only quote I've ever taken from those books, but it expresses the soul's need very, very well, I think.
BoxerChick's profile

5 months ago
The other thought that I got during those times of reflection is that we also tend to get the idea that a love or a relationship is meant to last forever and if it doesn't, then we have failed. Thanks to that quote, I now find that a relationship and even a love is only meant to last for as long as that is what the two people continue to choose. When it is time to move on, that is okay, and it is then much easier to maintain friendship.
BoxerChick's profile

5 months ago
Wanted to add...frenchy....you mentioned honesty as an expectation.....and you are absolutely right....but then that is an expectation for any relationship I have with someone....romantic or otherwise.
BlitheSpirit52's profile

5 months ago
Ditto for me, too, Blythe.
BoxerChick's profile

5 months ago
I haven't had time to really think this out yet, but I love deep, so will give it a thought before responding. Great post Frenchy, love just having you here with us at this group.
MaryTake5's profile

5 months ago
love and expectations..haven't read any of the responses..in my 57 years, those two words don't go together....the people I truely love..their are no expectations..I expect nothing from them, they expect nothing from me..
venusnblujeans's profile

5 months ago
when someone loves you ..you expect them to be happy for you when youre on a roll...and to give you a hand up when youre down and out....you expect them to listen to you when you need to talk and talk to you when you need to listen....you expect them to laugh at your jokes and pass the tissues when you watch a tear jerker together....and so much more

5 months ago
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