I wish I had the answers too, Mollie. I have been solo for a little over 20 years (actually after the kids left the nest it would be 9 years) The desire in my heart is the same as yours - to find the "very nice gentleman", fall in love and live happily ever after. I want it all. I want to travel, cook, wash cars together and be a couple. Being best friends. There is a whole lot of life out there and I want it all. But I will not settle. I would rather be alone than to be with the wrong person.
You be careful, Mollie. There are a lot of people out there who will take advantage. The bootie calls are offered every day......but we are not desperate just because we are alone at this time. Raise the bar. We deserve it all. It will happen. I believe that.
You be discerning.......the age is not an issue, the heart is. Focus on quality. Your children will see a man who treats their mother with respect and brings happiness back to her life. They will support that.
God bless you, Mollie. Your message struck a chord with me.....I totally understand where you are.
~Judy in Arizona
hello Mollie,
I wrote a post about Older women/younger men awhile back. Here is it again for your review.
I have been well aware of the trend of many years now of older women dating/marrying younger men. The tide seems to have at long last , turned. We all know men have dated/married younger women for ages. Last night Ivana Trump, 59 years old, (exwife of Donald Trump)married Rossano Rubicondi, a 36 year old Italian . That's 23 years difference in their ages , ladies! The wedding took place in Palm Beach at the seaside estate , where the billionaire Donald married Slovenian model , Melaine Knauss in 2005. The Donald's second wife was a Georgia woman , Marla Maples. They had a child together. Ivana's daughter, Ivanka will be the maid of honor and Ivana's two son's gave her away.
Yes, older women are finally hooking up with younger men and society will have to accept and adjust to this trend.
Older women who date younger men have been labeled and known as Cougars. There is a web site: www.go.cougars.com for these older women who seek younger men. I have never opened up the site, but found it when I googled . I am a member of Senior Friend Finders and the younger men who have contacted me have been very nice looking and intelligent sounding.
posted by WAnne
6 months ago
At my age there is only much younger men around. I dated a man 5 years younger then me but he ended up married to a woman younger then himself and who had a job. so men are looking for finacial security too. I can only offer my companionship so men are not interested in that. Seems SE$X is what they are interested in and only do the friendship and caring act to get to sex. Wake up ladies, men do not think the same way as women do about relationships.
Hi Mollie,
Good for you -- still looking!
My husband of 20 years took off with another woman in 1988 and demanded a quickie divorce so he could, as his lawyer said, "marry his current girlfriend over the holidays".
Since then I had done some dating and even had a fairly long-term relationship with a very nice man, but found that time, distance, and some differing philosophies caused it to end. Kicking around in the mature singles world lets you know very fast why most of the men anywhere near our age are single. In the first place, at least 1/3 of the men who are "looking" are not single, just looking for some variety in their sex lives. Also, most want a Dallas Cowboys Cheerleader on their arm, not a Mother/Grandmother/Great-Grandmother. They are strictly looking for (1) sex, (2) a free nurse, or (3) someone to help them live the life to which they would like to become accustomed. Many cannot carry on an intelligent conversation and do not have any idea how to treat a lady. You also have to be very careful not to fall into the traps of the scammers.
However, last week, I married a wonderful man! I have been searching online for probably ten-plus years, tried various "MATCH" services, have had no luck with most. I found one service that worked well, offered matches that quite closely met my (high) requirements, was not terribly expensive as some are, and eventually matched me with the man I married. Since we cannot offer commercial items on this website, if anyone will send a personal email, I will be glad to recommend the service with which I found success. By the way, he is exactly one week older than I am.
Good luck, girls! And don't give up hope.
If I may I would ike to toss a few remarks which ar enot meant hurt any one.
As far as I am concerned you ladies are all "sweet young things" to me as I am 77 and I have been looking for one of you to come waltzing my way. I am a divorced man and I lost my home and family in my first divorce. Since then I have worked at rebuilding my fortune as it were. I am not wealthy,live on my SSI, a very small persion and smaller IRA. How many of have a home/house because divorce or death of husband. How many would give up their home say to join me in mine. I do not like the city any as one lady said "I will not drive at nght," I read what you want in your new husband, from this end it reads like you want a Boy Scout. I still honour the woman. I will even help do the dishes, run the sweeper, wash the windows but with the aid of the lady of the house. I have learned marriage is a 2 way street. I would like to find my last true love so that I may go out with a smile on me face.. I will take comments here on eons or rodkeys@gilanet.com
No offense taken, Datil. You asked how many of us have a home/house because of divorce or death of spouse. Not the case here. I divorced years ago and had custody of six kids. (3 by birth and 3 adopted from my foster parenting days) I worked a full time job at night and slept on the sofa so I could be around the kids when they were up. I worked two part time jobs, as well. I remember washing clothes in the bathtub when my washer broke. That was a lot of laundry. I made it happen with hard work and determination. I would live in a cave with a screen door with true love. I have never had true love and I am hopeful it will happen. That's my story.
I should be getting my chores done, but I just sat down at the computer to check mail etc. and noticed this post which I wanted to reply to -- and joined the group to do so. A quick reply and then to work.
My first husband was six years older - and not a good match. My second husband was six years younger than me -- and the love of my life. Unfortunately, after 29 years together I lost him to cancer. I had hoped that his being younger we would live together for the rest of our lives -- that was not the case. Now, I am seeing a man who is 15 years younger than I am. I don't notice the difference and he does not seem to either. We don't see each other often as he is a very busy man, but it is enough to satisfy me. Yes, you do have to be careful, but in my opinion age does not seem to be a big factor.
