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Why?

from "Living when a loved one has died" by Earl A. Grollman

How often in happy times did you ask, "Why?''

When blessings were yours and life was joyful, did you ask, "Why?"

Now death has shaken your faith,
"Why?"
"Why me?"
"Why didn't I die first?"
"Why must my life be one of sorrow?"
"Why?"

There are no pat answers,
No one completely understands
the mystery of death.

Even if the question were answered,
would your pain be eased,
your loneliness less terrible?

There is no answer that bridges
the chasm of irreparable separation

There is no satisfactory response
for an unresolvable dilemma

Not all questions have answers.

Unanswered why's are part of life.
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the last sentence is the answer to our question 'why?'...and, while, it's not what we want to hear....when we think about it...it is accurate...

we always want a solution, someone to blame, take the responsibility....and sometimes there are no answers....tough for us to accept, tougher to move on, but move on we must...accept on 'faith' that which troubles us...the same way we accept other questions on faith

"unanswered why's are part of life...keep moving forward, remember grief is the healing path, not the destination"
sflattem's profile
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Great post! I remember (vaguely) a song that ended with something like, "In the end we will understand - without ever having to know 'why.'" I trust that is true...
thmarty's profile

6 months ago
Their are always those unanswered why's. Only in our death will we know the answers. Thanks Steve.
suecitysue's profile

6 months ago
Thanks Steve you always find the perfect posts. We will know why somewhere in our own future.
casey6749's profile

6 months ago
i never thought about it like that, but no i never stopped to ask
why when things were good.

6 months ago
And when we meet our Maker, will the answers be important?

Live and enjoy the life you have, the memories and the blessings of that special love that made you what you are today.
Scrapit's profile

6 months ago
Scrapit,

Sflattem,

You are so right. There were times that I wondered why we can't all go to our next life as couples but God made us all individuals. I know that I did the best I could to help Dave in his illnesses and the last 3 weeks of his life.

We are only here for a visit. Some day, we will all move on to another life. Sometimes, I do not look forward to coming home to an empty house. We had many "Couples" friends that did "NOT" drop me. They all live in different parts of the country. I just returned home from a 10 day trip with one of those couples. Another couple will be here tomorrow in their "BIG" RV for a few days. These couples all came to see us during Dave's last cancer battle. Several of them made it possible for me to go to California and several of us got together again. It was hard for us to get used to "the missing one".

Yes, Scrapit, we have the responsibility to live our life to the fullest. We have no idea what tomorrow will bring!
barbara70's profile

6 months ago
The promise, that God made to us, that we would have eternal life, is worth, all trials and tribulations we have here, on this little blue planet..
HonestJohn's profile

6 months ago
Amen!
barbara70's profile

6 months ago
Thank you --

That was a very nice last post Steve wrote, very moving especially to read what he had last posted.
God Bless he and his wife

Chris
crashrescuewife's profile

6 months ago
I find myself missing Steve's posts. I am happy his words are still here to help someone else. I hope he is happy to finally be back with the wife he adored.

Steve we miss you...
Tsulawmn's profile

4 months ago
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