Definitions of a 'Player' | Online Safety for Women

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Definitions of a "Player"

a link to the list of types of players and what they are about.

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There are many different types, but if any of these sound familiar to you, "red flag" them.

Married
Married, but
Mr. Blowhard
Hit & Run Player
Body - Surfers
The Globe Trotter
Mr. Big
The Sympathy Dog
The Control Freak
The Guilt Trip Player
The Freeloaders
The Cyberpaths (Online Sociopaths)
Also a Cyberpath, the Emotional Hitchhiker

posted by deepsnoww

This is really helpful, deepsnow! I'm glad to see these definitions.

A number of years back, a Cyberpath/Emotional Hitchhiker worked his way through several women at the same site. Very traumatic. Heartbreaking for these victims.

Again, great material. Thank you!

posted by cdaara
over 2 years ago

Thanks for the great link. Sad that there are so many men who need to resort to this kind of behavior.
Dee

posted by Jerseywoman
over 2 years ago

Does it help to label them? I think so. Putting a label to these types of behaviors makes it less personal and that is helpful. What this reminded me of is the book "Never Be Lied To Again" where they point out the liar will typically tell you just the opposite. So he will say, "I'm not gonna lie to you", or "I'm not a player". Watch for this pattern and you will find the first big red flag. Thanks for sharing the list...Lonestar1.

posted by lonestar1
over 2 years ago

Good grief, I thought I couldn't be amazed at the lengths that some people will go to in order to get some weird jollies. I should know better, even though I've been married to a really good guy almost since I was born, I know what the world is like.

You can never expect to understand from a normal, healthy perspective the mind of someone who would do these things because they are neither normal nor healthy and can't be second guessed. Best thing to do is get as far away from any of them as quickly as possible because you are never enough of anything to satisfy a person like these.

Most of the sites I have frequented over the years the membership would gang up on anyone who behaved the way the people in those descriptions do and run them out on a rail. Guess I've been lucky never to have had to deal with any of this.

Learn something new every day.

:-)

diosa

posted by diosa
over 2 years ago

Interesting list! I have seen a few of these here on eons myself!