I SUGGEST YOU GIVE THEM A TIME FRAME TO MOVE OUT AND GET BACK ON THEIR FEET. I WOULD DO THIS BEFORE THEY ACTUALLY MOVE IN. GOOD LUCK!
Hi Terri, this seems to be a worldwide problem! I love my two daughters more than anyone, yet when they decided to come home and 'look after' me, after my surgery, my life has turned into a nightmare; they are back to using all my resources, taking my important art materials, crashing around until all the hours of the night, telling me how to live my life and where I am allowed to be in the house, etc...you know the story, wear the t-shirt, well, I would not be without them in spite of the massiv electric and phone bills and the loans I'v had to dish out and the cheek I've had to put up with. One of the worst things is that they contribute nothing at all, borrow a lot and STILL expect to control everything - they do next to nothing yet criticise what jobs I do.
I had to remind them lately that I may be their best friend but I am also their Mother and as such should be treated with respect. I think they are two of the best girls around but there seems to be a worldwide syndrome! It even has a name: KIPPER - Kids In Parents' Pockets Eroding their Retirement fund. So, we as mature parents, find ourselves supporting financially, emotionally and every other, 'ally', our grown up children. Perhaps one day the tables will turn and they'll support us, who knows, or can we look forward to spending our last years in a home?
junO
