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New Concept-Soon I will be moving to South Dakota. I don't have much family left and my son and his family live in Sioux Falls-so it seems logical that Sioux Falls is where I should be.

Once I get there I will be basically starting from scratch-not job wise(retired) -but friend wise. A female friend-that is a new concept. Most of my activities are going to be centered around my son and grand daughters-but it would be nice to have a friend to go places and do things with. "Hey-lets get together for lunch-or would you like to go with me to that concert in the park-or how about a trip out to the Black Hills"

It seems that most people on this site are interested in the "end game"-it is all about the fourth quarter. What is the probability of meeting Mr or Mrs right(more like perfect than right)-think about it-it is pretty damn slim. On top of that-seems like everyone has experienced some pain-a divorce-or the death of a spouse. This tends to make you "cautious" to say the least. That is just a function of living-I'm more cautious crossing the road than I was in my younger years.
The probability of meeting the "alien abducted chick" or maybe the "alien
herself"(reference to Dennis' post) is greater than meeting the perfect mate.

Baggage-everybody has baggage! It is part of your life experience-some of it was really good-some of it really bad-it will always be there-whether you let it dominate your life is the question. Maybe your spouse died-do I have to compete with his memory? Maybe he ran around on you-so are my whereabouts going to be constantly monitored. Baggage-a fact of life.

Why a woman-I enjoy being with the guys too-but a womans company is a different experience than watching the game or just doing guy stuff. Now if you found a woman who loves football-that's a plus-I love my football-and I don't ask much-so I am gonna watch the game.

When you are younger-basically you see women as a sex object. As you age-hopefully you have matured mentally also-you begin to see where they are more than that. Women just think differently-they have a little different approach to things. So they have their place too. I prefer a gal who is a little independent-has a mind of her own-keeps up with current events-has some spunk-I enjoy a friendly but spirited debate. If her idea of an intellectual pursuit is keeping up with what Brad Pitt and Angelina did this week-NOT!

Emotions-a woman is tuned in-they understand it-and are a lot better at expressing it than men are. They have a different slant things-look at things from a different angle-so sometimes they can get you thinking a little differently. Talk about that kind of stuff to one of your buddies-you risk all kinds of abuse-they will use it against you-in a friendly kind of way.
Now emotional stuff-it need not have anything to do with the person you are talking to-maybe it is some family thing-or something else-who knows.

SEX-I am definitely not opposed to it-and I definitely enjoy it-but I can live without it-it's has been a few years-and nothing has fallen off yet-and I check on a regular basis.
I am an old fashioned guy-I was brought up to respect women-I always kind of thought they were just better than us guys-maybe morally superior in some respects. I am always looking for that one who I can put on a pedestle-but unfortunately I seem to have more empty pedestles as time goes on.
Now women in general have come a long way-and I believe they should be equal to men-in pay, and other legal issues-but I think in some respects they have gone to far. There are plenty of women-but few LADIES left-I assume their are still a few.

AM I NUTS?-DOES THIS MAKE SENSE? -IS IT POSSIBLE?

It just seems to me that if you came close to drowning last time in the pool-and you haven't been swimming lately-rather than jump off the high drive-it is better to start off in the shallow end of the pool.

THis post has been "hanging here" for 5 days-what conclusion can I draw from that-?

Maybe I am crazy-and that wouldn't work.

hal...
before you go to the grocery store in your new home town...
brush your teeth, clean socks, no comb overs, pluck your
nose hair, shave your ear hairs... umm get dressed and
stop infront of a full length mirror... list in hand, smile
on face..set out to present yourself for who you are...
be friendly but don't gawk.
wait for eye contact.
smile.
conveniently rewalk the aisle she will be going down next...
pause in front of items that require a 'choice'...ask for
opinions.... oh heck... i'm just sharing where i check
out the men in MY neighborhood... costco is too busy
though EVERYONE who is anybody goes there on
Saturdays.... good luck in your new place !

Halboy...in case you didn't notice, this is more of a welcome to the group thread and not one for asking questions and getting responses on. Not that it couldn't be, but most people respond better to active threads than this one. Guess you're lucky that Kona noticed your plea.

kona-Thanks for the tips-you forgot the shave and shower-I got all those covered. The supermarket thing-not a bad idea.
When you have to trim your ear hairs-that is when you know you are getting old.

The comb-over has been gone for about 10 years at least. The don't gawk part-that could be a problem-I will have to learn to gawk on the sly.

i M Not so experience din this and i only know when u talk tomen they only wish to know if u are passioante and a ctive sexually and if will be with them how cau be with someone u dont kn ow and dont know where he has been and whether u are attracted to him and whether he is healthy or not and whehter there is a chemistry what do u do to explore the relationship without losing it someone adviseme please.