online dating tips part one
this one is a little long so see the first reply . i hope this helps .. as the title implies there will be more to come later
well a while back someone made a post inquiring what it took for a woman over 50 to get noticed and my reply from a guys point of view got me a few pm's askin for more advice so i said i'd make a post when i got a chance instead of writin a long pm to each one individually .. but when i thought about it i knew i couldn't put it all in one post so this is part one ..
now this is only my experience and i'm sure a lot of guys can add to this and i hope they do because i'd hate to see a bunch of women over 50 just give up entirely because nobody is noticein them .. because i know there are a lot of good guys out there who are lookin for girls just like you so without further delay let me begin by saying where you put up your profile can make a difference .. and thats what this post will be all about .. i know it can be a real maze and to be honest i don't know of all the sites you can join but i'll say what i know about the one's i am familiar with and why i think they're your best bets and why some are not ..
first off let me say that true is probably the worst one you can join .. don't waste your time with that one ( if they're even still in business ..) what a bunch of crooked deceptive suckers they are .. they'll send you emails sayin how this one or that one is interested in you and it's not true .. maybe they should call it not true instead of true .. suffice it to say skip that one at all costs .. '
next is eharmony , while i won't say you can't meet a good match there what i'll say is unless both you and the other party are both paying members there's no chance to ever connect as hard as you might try .. so while they're sending you emails saying this guy is just right for you , you'll have no way of knowing if he's a member you can actually hear back from even if you join .. and thts a big problem with a lot of sites .. you may get a wink or send one but you can't get any kind of response unless you both pony up .. so in my opinion this is another site to probably avoid .. it's this kind of site that makes you think there's something wrong with you when in fact there isn't ..also eharmony doesn't show any pics unless you payup either .. their adds on tv are pretty good tho but i'd say avoid them ..
next is match.com which started out as love@aol.com and it was a great site .. then they made it a pay site and just like eharmony unless you're both members there's no way to connect . so you'll try to contact someone and wonder whats wrong with you because you don't hear back from someone .. well thats why .. so like eharmony it's a big gamble as to the one you're interested will ever be able to respond back to you .. so i'd say to avoid them too for just that reason ..
next up is singlesnet.com .. of all the pay sites i think this one is about the best .. if you're a paying member even if the one you contact isn't you can still email them and they can email you too .. and it doesn't matter who initiates it .. as long as one of you is a paying member you can contact any other member paying or not .. a much smarter idea in my opinion ..
next up is yahoo.com and while it's not as good as singlesnet i think it's better than match or eharmony .. a paying member can email anyone they want and non paying members can read it but if you put your email addy in there it will gray it out so they can't read it forceing you to either join also or not be able to respond .. a lot of people don't know this and wonder why they never get an answer other than a canned response .. but there is a way to get around that .. you put your addy in but just don't put that @ sign or the .com and it will go thru .. so if your addy is lulubell@lovemonkey.com for instance just say you can contact me at lulubell at that love monkey site .. if the recipient doesn't get it then you're probably better off skippin that guy because if he can't figure that out he's probably dumber than a stick anyway and you wouldn't want him ..
of all the paying sites the ones i mentioned are probably about the most popular but there are others .. i can't remember all of them at the moment but to be honest i never met anyone from any of the others .. and there weren't that many members either .. and a few of them went under because of it too .. you have to have the members
now for a free site i'd have to say plentyoffish.com is about the most popular with the most members throughout the usa and pretty easy to join .. i highly recomend them .. i'd say you're sure to meet someone there if you try hard enough and make a good profile ( that will be covered in the next post )
next is datehookup.com also free and easy to join but not as many members but then the guy you're lookin for might be there instead of plentyoffish so there's no crime in joinin both sites.. i recomend this one too..
and last but not least of the free sites is okcupid.com .. not that many members yet but i think someday it will have a bunch more .. it's the most interesting of the three because it has all these zany tests you can take which to be honest some of them make really no sense but they're a good way to kill some time ..and some of them are kinda insightful .. and you can match your responses to someone you might be interested in just for hoots and giggles .. so while there aren't a lot of members there yet i think you'll enjoy it anyway and who knows the guy you're lookin for may just be there.. why take a chance .. join this one too .
thats about it for the dating sites that come to my mind for now .. i'm sure someone can think of one or two i forgot and i welcome them too .. after all i'm tryin to help here and any advise is appreciated .. my next post will be about how to get noticed when you put your profile up ( from a guys point of view anyway ) and hopefully there will be some other guys who will chime in and tell you some of the things i never even thought of.. because the last thing i want is for you ladies to just give up.. i'm sure all the other guys will agree with me on that one .. now if you'll excuse me i have to get ready for an important date i have with ike .. if you don't hear back from me for a few days it'll be ikes fault .. or maybe josephine .. or whoever is next .. maybe kyle ?? i'm losin track there's so many out there that probably want me .. fay wasn't so bad but i think she was just the warmup for whats to come .. frenchy ..
now this is only my experience and i'm sure a lot of guys can add to this and i hope they do because i'd hate to see a bunch of women over 50 just give up entirely because nobody is noticein them .. because i know there are a lot of good guys out there who are lookin for girls just like you so without further delay let me begin by saying where you put up your profile can make a difference .. and thats what this post will be all about .. i know it can be a real maze and to be honest i don't know of all the sites you can join but i'll say what i know about the one's i am familiar with and why i think they're your best bets and why some are not ..
first off let me say that true is probably the worst one you can join .. don't waste your time with that one ( if they're even still in business ..) what a bunch of crooked deceptive suckers they are .. they'll send you emails sayin how this one or that one is interested in you and it's not true .. maybe they should call it not true instead of true .. suffice it to say skip that one at all costs .. '
next is eharmony , while i won't say you can't meet a good match there what i'll say is unless both you and the other party are both paying members there's no chance to ever connect as hard as you might try .. so while they're sending you emails saying this guy is just right for you , you'll have no way of knowing if he's a member you can actually hear back from even if you join .. and thts a big problem with a lot of sites .. you may get a wink or send one but you can't get any kind of response unless you both pony up .. so in my opinion this is another site to probably avoid .. it's this kind of site that makes you think there's something wrong with you when in fact there isn't ..also eharmony doesn't show any pics unless you payup either .. their adds on tv are pretty good tho but i'd say avoid them ..
next is match.com which started out as love@aol.com and it was a great site .. then they made it a pay site and just like eharmony unless you're both members there's no way to connect . so you'll try to contact someone and wonder whats wrong with you because you don't hear back from someone .. well thats why .. so like eharmony it's a big gamble as to the one you're interested will ever be able to respond back to you .. so i'd say to avoid them too for just that reason ..
next up is singlesnet.com .. of all the pay sites i think this one is about the best .. if you're a paying member even if the one you contact isn't you can still email them and they can email you too .. and it doesn't matter who initiates it .. as long as one of you is a paying member you can contact any other member paying or not .. a much smarter idea in my opinion ..
next up is yahoo.com and while it's not as good as singlesnet i think it's better than match or eharmony .. a paying member can email anyone they want and non paying members can read it but if you put your email addy in there it will gray it out so they can't read it forceing you to either join also or not be able to respond .. a lot of people don't know this and wonder why they never get an answer other than a canned response .. but there is a way to get around that .. you put your addy in but just don't put that @ sign or the .com and it will go thru .. so if your addy is lulubell@lovemonkey.com for instance just say you can contact me at lulubell at that love monkey site .. if the recipient doesn't get it then you're probably better off skippin that guy because if he can't figure that out he's probably dumber than a stick anyway and you wouldn't want him ..
of all the paying sites the ones i mentioned are probably about the most popular but there are others .. i can't remember all of them at the moment but to be honest i never met anyone from any of the others .. and there weren't that many members either .. and a few of them went under because of it too .. you have to have the members
now for a free site i'd have to say plentyoffish.com is about the most popular with the most members throughout the usa and pretty easy to join .. i highly recomend them .. i'd say you're sure to meet someone there if you try hard enough and make a good profile ( that will be covered in the next post )
next is datehookup.com also free and easy to join but not as many members but then the guy you're lookin for might be there instead of plentyoffish so there's no crime in joinin both sites.. i recomend this one too..
and last but not least of the free sites is okcupid.com .. not that many members yet but i think someday it will have a bunch more .. it's the most interesting of the three because it has all these zany tests you can take which to be honest some of them make really no sense but they're a good way to kill some time ..and some of them are kinda insightful .. and you can match your responses to someone you might be interested in just for hoots and giggles .. so while there aren't a lot of members there yet i think you'll enjoy it anyway and who knows the guy you're lookin for may just be there.. why take a chance .. join this one too .
thats about it for the dating sites that come to my mind for now .. i'm sure someone can think of one or two i forgot and i welcome them too .. after all i'm tryin to help here and any advise is appreciated .. my next post will be about how to get noticed when you put your profile up ( from a guys point of view anyway ) and hopefully there will be some other guys who will chime in and tell you some of the things i never even thought of.. because the last thing i want is for you ladies to just give up.. i'm sure all the other guys will agree with me on that one .. now if you'll excuse me i have to get ready for an important date i have with ike .. if you don't hear back from me for a few days it'll be ikes fault .. or maybe josephine .. or whoever is next .. maybe kyle ?? i'm losin track there's so many out there that probably want me .. fay wasn't so bad but i think she was just the warmup for whats to come .. frenchy ..
2 months ago
French, you need to get syndicated!
2 months ago
Frenchy, that was wonderful and yes, greatly appreciated. Thanks, bunches! Looking forward to some more friendly trust-worthy adivce! You rock! Be Careful, stay safe!Enjoy!
2 months ago
I'm not kidding French, you should start a syndicate blog! You've got the skinny on most of the On-line dating sites and have a charming way of communicating that makes you an instant hit with the ladies.
By the way did you collect baseball cards as a kid?
By the way did you collect baseball cards as a kid?
2 months ago
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2 months ago
Great advice! Glad you pointed out the fact if you don't get a response from someone it is because they are signed up with the particular site. Hadn't thought of that. Thanks. Look forward to more of your advice.
2 months ago
There is one more free site: "Mingle2".
But so far there is non of them worked for me, with exception really young kids contacting me...
But so far there is non of them worked for me, with exception really young kids contacting me...
2 months ago
Hi Frenchie,
Can't wait till part II. Did you do ok through the bad weather? Will be waiting for your next post.
Sweet Em
Can't wait till part II. Did you do ok through the bad weather? Will be waiting for your next post.
Sweet Em
2 months ago
hi golden , thanks for the compliment but to be honest i'm just tryin to share what i've learned .. i know i was pretty miffed in the beggining too so if i say anything at all that helps to make this clearer for you thats enough for me .. but it is nice to be appreciated .. and no i never collected baseball cards .. i have a bad habit now of collectin guitars tho ..especially as i can only play one at a time .. not quite the same as baseball cards tho .. i can never get them guitars in them little books .. frenchy
2 months ago
and patty and roadvixen keep lookin i'll try to post part two tomorrow sometime .. i do hope it helps you .. a lot of it is pretty simple but if you don't know it's not so simple .. and a lot of the paying sites aren't gonna tell you all this stuff .. they just want your hard earned cash and you're on your own .. frenchy..
2 months ago
