Do you have a brother or sister you don't talk to? I am hard at work on my new book, which is about how we relate to our brothers and sisters when we are adults. It is called Unfinished Business, and it covers all the different kinds of relationships, from very close, to cool, to estranged. I am fascinated by what I am learning about the powerful feelings we have toward brothers and sisters, feelings that begin in the nursery and never go away. It’s interesting to see how the early feelings morph through life, or a frozen.
I have interviewed a number of people who feel that they have been excluded and mistreated by their siblings. These people are in terrible pain, and it breaks my heart. Some of them don’t know what they did to make their siblings so angry with them, and I can’t tell, either. They can’t send me to talk with their angry relatives because they aren’t speaking, of course.
So I am looking for help from my Eons friends who might know something about being on the other side of estrangement. If you made the decision to break it off with a brother or sister, could you let me know why and what happened? I might want to interview you for my book, if you have the time, but I would be equally grateful just to get a sense of what brothers and sisters do to make their siblings think, “Enough is enough.”
Thanks