Amazing lady

posted 4 months ago

My mother-in-law passed away Friday. She was a remarkable woman. My children will miss her very much. It is hard to grieve at first, when a person was so sick they were ready to leave this life. But the holidays will be difficult. How do you reconstruct Christmas when the person who lined it out and filled it in is gone?

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1. 4 months ago deltajoan wrote:

I'm really sorry for your loss. It will be hard on all of you for awhile but you just go thru the pain and come out the other side. You will cry at the drop of a hat. But it's ok to let your kids see you cry and let them cry along with you. They need to grieve too. Then, after many months, you will start remembering her and how good she was and you will talk about her and reminisce and have wonderful tales to tell and share. You might even cry some more, but it will get easier. It really does. I lost my brother in 1999 to cancer at the age of 55 and it hurt so bad but after awhile, it got easier. Let me give you a, for lack of a better word, poem that I got from a book about a child who was murdered and somebody gave it to her mother that helped me and my family out at the time: Do not stand at my grave and weep, I am not here; I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow, I am the diamond's gilt on snow. I am the sunlight on ripened grain, I am the gentle autumn's rain. When you awake in the morning's hush, I am the swift uplifting rush of quiet birds in circled flight. I am the soft stars that shine in the night. Do not stand at my grave and cry, I am not here, I did not die. God bless you in this stressful time.