A few days ago I received a pm from a member of one the groups I manage. I always look forward to receiving mail, like most folks do. However, this letter left me feeling pretty low. It seems I had not been a very good group host, and this person felt they'd been snubbed.
In a nutshell she told me that no one had responded to her initial communication in the group, and she was leaving it, feeling nobody would miss her anyway. I have to say, that the group is very small 30 people, with only about 6 to 10 that post anything. I took over the management of it when the age brew ha ha broke out. I didn't want to see it go. Anyway, no excuse for me not to post a greeting welcoming her to our group. That was inexcusable on my part, and a major oversight.
It got me to thinking, that many of us take most of these postings for granted. We just seem to post, and many times post and post, and fail to see what others are posting. I know that I really appreciate someone taking the time to read or listen to one of my entries, and then leaving a small reply. It doesn't have to be much, just a short note suffices. We don't have to leave a reply on every post, but do take some time to see what others are up to, and what's on their mind. It can be a real eye opener.
So in closing, whether you're a group manager, moderator, or just a member, please take time to read and reply to others when you can. To many of us, it means more than you know, and to the person I ignored, I take this opportunity to apologize for my poor hospitality.
Try To Be More Hospitable
posted 6 months ago
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- 1. 6 months ago jeanie52 wrote:
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Thank you for this post. I know how it feels to post something and nobody replies, and then I've had some posts that drew a lot of replies.
But, some of us are home alone and really get a lot out of being on Eons so replies do mean a lot some times.
I've been off work for three months because of an accident i had at home while doing some home repairs. With TV shows not airing due to the strike, and the bad weather Eons has giving me something to look forward to, so I do try to reply a lot, and in doing so I have met some pretty cool people.
- 2. 6 months ago IrishRose2007 wrote:
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Hey - we're all adults here - I don't think she should have felt slighted - but that's just my personal opinion - the nature of cyber communication is that sometimes it can be very one-sided or there may be a lag time in response if the recipient is heavily burdened with receiving and/or monitoring communiques. I'm sure in your heart-of-hearts, you meant no disrespect at all.
- 3. 6 months ago feywon wrote:
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It shows a sense of responsibility on your part to post this public apology, which i applaud. And it's a good reminder to us all.
i often make just little comments here and there on blogs when it seems people want an acknowledgement. Certainly if i was in anyway a moderator/host of a group i would consider it my duty to keep an eye out for new members and welcome them. Since the threads move to the top based on recency of replies...doing this would also make it more likely to be noticed by others in the group.
On the other hand, IrishRose has a point...some people take offense too quickly and easily, don't give a group time to get to know them by responding to posts.
Jeanie, hope your're better soon.
- 4. 6 months ago emom101 wrote:
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You know, I have been writing the News for 6 months or more. In all that time, I have received very few replies or posts. I do not expect any and am always surprised to find a response. I have joined many groups and have not received one greeting from some. My feelings are not hurt, I jump in and make my comments and make myself at home. If I am not welcome, I will learn soon enuf...lolol meems
- 5. 5 months ago BentwingedAngel wrote:
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wELL SAID! I have left groups that BTW I was encouraged to join. After joining, invisible! soo I dropped after say a short time. Although in my group people are pretty good...they could be better (along with myself.)Would it be OK schwannman If I quoted you, in my group? Excellent message!
